10 BDSM Punishments That Segue Perfectly Into Sex
These BDSM penalties are excellent starting points for sexual play. They are not, however, prescriptive! You can customize every aspect of kink and sex, so pick what suits you best and have a great time.
Your kink and sex lives are entwined if you're like many couples. Your steamy spanking scene or bondage follows naturally into some intense, passionate sex or strong orgasms with a wand massager.
(This is not to imply that it must! It's typical to experience the kink and BDSM enchantment without engaging in any sexual action, particularly within the kink community. And that's also really fantastic!
You probably appreciate combining the two, though, if you're like most couples. However, you don't have to limit yourself to your well-known scenes. There are really hundreds (thousands!) of techniques to effortlessly transition from sexy, kinky foreplay to scrumptious sexual play.
Here are 10. Before moving on to some kinkier possibilities, we'll start with the classics:
1. Spanking
Most couples choose fake punishment scenarios that involve spanking, the stereotypical "punishment" that we all think of. And with good reason! The position necessary for a spanking can make the bottom feel exposed and vulnerable, and the physical sensations of a spanking can feel amazing (and are positioned close to your erogenous zones!).
Additionally, it's relatively simple to remove underwear to the side as you start having sex—that is, if the bottom is wearing any at all!
Think about varying your go-to spanking position if you have one. Since the bottom partner must keep their balance to stay on their top's knees, over-the-knee spankings can be pretty hot for certain people. Allow the bottom partner to lie at a 90-degree angle on the top's lap while the top rests upright against the headboard of the bed to maximize the feelings. You can both stay in this position for a very long time because it is incredibly supportive.
Or, be a little more inventive: From the beginning, combine your "punishment" with enjoyment! To touch several erogenous zones during the spanking, think about using a hands-free sex toy like the b-Vibe Vibrating Snug Plug, Lovense Ferri, Lovense Gush, or Lovense Lush 3. Because the plug will wriggle inside the body with each slap, butt plugs can be particularly entertaining!
2. Bondage
Bondage, the second most popular punishment, is an easy (and enjoyable!) method for couples to get a taste of kink.
Have you behaved badly enough to deny your lover physical contact? That's what can be accomplished with a simple cuff tying of the wrists. It can get really heated! It makes sense that this frequently leads to passionate sex later on!
You can minimize the "transition" and keep the bound partner in their bondage during sex for a little extra excitement. By default, the Under the Bed Restraint System places the bound partner in a spread-eagle position, which is ideal for sexual activity and requires no adjustments.
However, any traditional bondage sex position might be a terrific way to combine your bondage punishment with some sexual play.
3. Simple Predicament Bondage
By preparing for certain situations of bondage, you can go even further with bondage. Compared to a typical bondage scene, this requires a lot more planning, but depending on your goals, it can be pretty sexy to witness and experience.
Bondage that poses a dilemma is known as predicament bondage. (Are you serious?) In practice, this frequently requires the bound individual to select between two possibilities. In order to avoid or acquire a second option, they typically have to put themselves in bodily hardship by selecting one (such as holding a squat or having their hair tugged by rope).
For a basic example, consider this:
You put a wand massager five inches (or more, depending on their height!) below their genitalia in a solid wand massager holder. Nipple clamps are fastened to an overhead point using a rope that has very little slack. The tied individual must now squat down to position their spots onto the wand massager if they wish to enjoy the orgasmic stimulation it provides. But if they do that, their quadriceps will be trembling to maintain that position, and the nipple clamps will be stretched taut!
Suppose you want to create a punishing vibe. In that case, you can also force your spouse to choose between two unpleasant sensations, such as a very tight, wedgie-inducing rope that pulls upwards if they aren't on their tiptoes and nipple clamps that tighten if the bound partner relaxes onto flat feet.
In any case, you get to witness your significant other make tough decisions, such as enduring pain in the hopes of experiencing some exciting sensation. Warm!
It may take some preparation to pull off, but the choice of pleasure, in particular, might put you both in a position where you want to have sex right away. Just be aware of the muscles you've previously exhausted because you might not be able to perform some sex positions thereafter!
4. Playful Household Chores
Choose a few home tasks that need to be completed and have the punished partner complete them in lingerie, bondage, or naked. The top has to "supervise" and ensure that every task is completed to their satisfaction in order actually to pull this off. This could even involve telling the "punished" partner to perform the functions in a way that is more aesthetically pleasing: "Just bend down a little more."
Just be mindful of the tasks they are performing and their attire. For this, simple, light tasks are ideal, such as cleaning counters. Moving the refrigerator as part of a thorough cleaning is likely to cause perspiration in a very unattractive way. If doing this in lingerie, make sure the bottom isn't being cleaned with bleach or other staining agents; nobody wants to spoil their pricey favorites.
5. Furniture Objectification
Have you already used a human table?
What are you waiting for if not? One partner can be "forced" to get on their hands and knees and serve as the other partner's "table" as an ideal form of punishment. In a riding crop, where the non-table partner can give the "table" a little smack every time it moves, this could even work well.
Consider setting a bowl of easily cleaned material on top of your table and asking them to balance it without tipping it over. This will provide a true challenge. However, be ready to clean this up. The majority of us aren't accustomed to remaining motionless, and most people's backs aren't perfectly flat.)
Remember that tables also require upkeep. If you got down on your hands and knees and used some of their favorite sex toys on it, perhaps all of the energy would be expended, and it wouldn't be so squirrely. Remember that tables also don't speak! (However, be sure to keep a nonverbal safety phrase in mind.)
This is a clear example of how "hot punishment" gives way to "hot sex." It might be challenging to hold this position for extended periods, so be mindful of the table's knees. You're in luck because there are many human furniture items that you could actually use, like lamps and coat racks.
6. Kinky Dinner Plans
Tell your submissive partner that they are preparing supper tonight as your subsequent punishment.
Too easy? Alright, let's add bell-adorned breast clamps and a riding crop supervisor who will spank the cook whenever they make a sound with the bells. (If you think it would fit better, feel free to adjust the clamps to other areas, such as the testicles.)
Now that dinner is prepared for them, the top may watch the entire meal and take in the scenery. The best of both worlds is combined!
Just watch out for the oven! If you genuinely want your food to taste well, use a basic recipe and ignore any tingling that may occur when handling anything hot and hazardous. Erotic play can be a little distracting, it turns out!
7. Bondage Sex Furniture
Although sex furniture is fantastic, is it possible for it to be used for bondage? That seems like a charming method to switch between sex, bondage, and kinky fun.
Fortunately for us, there is already bondage sex furniture available; we don't need to buy a complete sex dungeon or start from scratch. You have the option of using sex furniture as is or adding bondage that will last the duration of your session if it has bondage points. You can blend your kink and sex activities; there's no need to "transition" between them!
In addition to making it easier and more convenient to enjoy more comfortable sex and better angles, sex furniture also allows you to add bondage whenever you'd like. It functions somewhat like a piece of multipurpose furniture for your house.
As Liberator's famous, best-selling sex shape that makes g-spot and p-spot pleasure accessible during intercourse, many couples prefer to start with the Black Label Wedge. However, there are also the Liberator Obeir, Liberator Talea, Liberator Black Label Hipster, Liberator Bondi, and Liberator Black Label Esse Chaise if you want to go further.
8. Nuru Massage
Are you familiar with Nuru Massage? Imagine it as a hybrid of full-body massage, Jell-O wrestling, and nude wrestling. You can slip and slide against each other by stripping off and smearing your lover or partner with extremely slippery lubricant.
You don't have to adhere to the formal definition of Nuru Massage, even though it centers on lying on top of one another and massaging each other with different body parts.
If you try wrestling with each other in this entertaining style, there will be a lot of smiles and amusement. Another serious approach is for the dominant partner to attempt to "win and subdue" the spouse who requires punishment. Deep-tissue massage can be really painful, and fingernail scratches feel a little lighter due to the lubricant used. However, it can also be a wonderfully enjoyable way to try out different sensations.
If there is a vagina involved and you wish to transition to intercourse later, clean the outside with baby wipes and use water-based lubrication that is safe for intercourse. Vaginal use is not recommended for the majority of Nuru Massage gels.
But what's my main recommendation? For your Nuru massage, make sure you have a clean, safe space! Your best option is definitely a Nuru Massage Mat, but you may also try making your own with a plastic tarp or if you have a large, empty swimming pool.
9. Erotic Tickling
Tickling may seem like a lighthearted, enjoyable pastime, but many couples find that it can be an erotic punishment if it is done excessively. Even the term "tickle torture" is used to refer to this harsh kind of punishment.
Tickling involves a lot of skin-on-skin contact and can leave you both laughing and breathless. In order to get a response, the top is, after all, touching the bottom's body with their hands. Doesn't that sound like a lot of sex?
Additionally, tickling can feel a lot like sensuous contact if you reduce its strength to a light, delicate finger brushing. In actuality, there are times when there is very little difference between tickling and pleasant touch.
Therefore, it should come as no surprise that erotic tickling frequently lends itself to erotic enjoyment. Just remember to have lubricant and safer sex materials on hand for your upcoming tickling session!
10. Electro-Sex Sensations
The feelings can range from "adorably tickly" to "holy shit, ow!" with a lot of variation in the center if you haven't tried electro-sex.
However, the buzzing sound of electricity against your nude body can quickly turn this into a memory piece, even if the sensations are on the "adorably tickly" variety.
Select an electro-sex toy that is simple to use, such as the Neon Wand. For those who are new to electro-sex, it's essentially a plug-and-play alternative without the need for electrodes. To draw your punished partner's attention to the precise spot you desire, drag the toy along the skin while it is at its lightest setting. Additionally, you may use it to gently prod and poke your spouse, which is a great way to have fun with humiliation of any kind!
Some of the accessories, such as the Power Tripper, Electro Whip, Flex Capacitor, or Thunderclap, will enable you to deliver a spanking that is (quite literally) electrified if you genuinely want to improve your sexy punishments.
Conclusion
You may explore the world of kink and sex! If your "kinky punishment" consists of making your misbehaving subordinate scratch your head until their fingers are tired, then go ahead and do it! Enjoy yourself if that punishment makes you want more!
Keep in mind that kink and sex are entirely customizable. Have a great time figuring out what suits you best. In your unique partnership, you are your special individual. Honor that by engaging in amazing activities that you and your relationship or partners are enthusiastic about.
