10 Things to Know About Fisting Before You Even Think About Trying It

Fisting may be both thrilling and frightening. It's crucial to be informed because of this.

I was completely confused by fisting before I tried it, and I was also a bit scared of it. My girlfriend was interested in performing it, but the idea of it really overwhelmed me. Was it secure? Would I get hurt? Would it be painful? Or would it feel nice, really?

Many of my issues were addressed at a sex education course that included a fisting demonstration shortly after. As long as you performed it correctly, it didn't appear unpleasant at all. I didn't jump right in, though, even after that class. Instead, until my partner and I felt safe trying it ourselves, I kept reading about it and talking to people who had fisted (in both positions).

These are the 10 most valuable things I discovered.

Fisting Doesn't Stretch You Out

It's a common misconception that fisting makes you feel exhausted. It's just untrue. An individual does not become "loose" after being fisted. The vagina is an elastic muscle that bounces back just fine—as long as you take your time and do it correctly.

No Jewelry, Wash Your Hands, Inspect Them for Cuts or Abrasions, & Trim Your Nails

Make sure to take off any jewelry before you punch someone. Examine your hands for any wounds or abrasions after washing them. Use a shaper to smooth out any uneven edges and trim your nails to a consistent length. In general, shorter nails are seen to be safer, and they must have smooth edges.

All of this is done for the fisted's and the fister's safety. You may lessen the amount of bacteria on your skin by washing your hands with soap. You can reduce the chance of coming into contact with any possible infections by making sure you are free of cuts and abrasions. Since jewelry and sharp nails can tear through gloves and harm vaginal walls, they should be avoided.

Wear Gloves

Put on some gloves after washing your hands and taking off your jewelry. Although fisting mitts are explicitly designed for this function, nitrile or regular latex gloves can also be used. To prevent tearing through the gloves, you should still make sure the edges of your nails are smooth even if you're wearing them.

You can wrap your fingertips in medical gauze or place cotton balls inside the ends of your gloves if you don't want to chop your nails short. You may find it more challenging to move your hands in this manner, though, if you wish to do so. For most people, simply cutting their nails short is easier.

Use Lots of Lube

It is nearly difficult to use too much lubricant during fisting. Purchase more lubricant than you anticipate using.

To absorb any spills, place towels and/or chux pads down beforehand. When you're slapping someone, the last thing you want to worry about is if you're going to ruin the furniture or the linens.

When It Comes to Lube, Basic Is Better

A straightforward water-based lubricant works well for vaginal fisting. Please avoid using any lube that contains numbing agents, as they may cause the person being fisted to experience discomfort. Additionally, those unpleasant feelings offer insightful feedback. In order to modify your actions, you want to know if the person you are fisting feels uncomfortable.

Make Sure the Fisted Partner Is Aroused and Relaxed Before Starting

Avoid trying to go from zero to sixty, especially if it's your first time. Before you even enter the first finger, do a lot of foreplay. Play their preferred tunes. Go slowly.

It's Probably Going to Take a Long Time

One finger at a time, use it. Every time you add more, give the fisted partner enough time to become used to it.

The first time I was fisted, it took more than an hour. Although my body had its own pace, and it took some time for my muscles to relax and make room for the hand, my mind was undoubtedly willing. Fortunately, my spouse was really patient, and I relished every moment of the build-up.

Reapply Lube as Needed

Reapply lubrication frequently, even before you genuinely believe you need more. When in doubt, apply extra lubricant. In fisting, lubrication is love.

Let the Fisted Partner Dictate the Pace

It's useless if it doesn't feel pleasant for your spouse. Talk to each other during the process. Actually, this can be a part of the pillow talk: "Oh, that feels so good." It doesn't have to be clinical.

Fisting is often thought of as a very rough act, but I've always found that it works best when you start gently and increase the intensity as desired. This could mean that the fisting stays relatively gentle or that it gets much more intense as your partner relaxes. What feels good varies significantly from person to person, and even within the same person, depending on their hormonal cycle and mood.

The Knuckles Are the Trickiest Part

Once all of your fingers are outstretched, your hand will resemble a bird's beak. This is the most challenging aspect.

Have patience. Don't be scared to back your hand up into a prior position if you notice that it is cramping until the cramping stops.

You're in once you're past the knuckles. Making a fist with your hand is quite simple.

Many people discover that the knuckles create a truly unique sensation, and they have an intriguing texture (similar to a bumpy back massager).

Fisting can be an incredible experience if done correctly. The physical sensations are strange and intense.

Fisting is an incredibly intimate act that made me feel very close to my partner. It's not easy, though; there is a learning curve, but that's what makes it such a wonderful experience. Fisting also had the unanticipated side effect of making me feel the most vulnerable I'd ever been.