The Best Lesbian Sex Positions, According to Lesbians

There is no objective "best Lesbian sex positions." Lesbian sex positions that make both parties feel comfortable and happy are the greatest, just like any other type of sex.

It can be frightening to have gay sex. If my nervousness isn't coming from my internalized biphobia, it's from the taught, mandatory heterosexuality saying, "Hey! It is improper to kiss ladies. The majority of the ladies I've had sex with, both before and after our intimate encounters, claimed to be straight. That experience, in my opinion, is regrettably rather typical of closed-queer women.

Discovering your preferences can be perplexing and even rather traumatic.

I had sex with a woman who openly identified as homosexual and a lesbian for the first time last year. Despite our extreme excitement, we didn't say much. We were anxious, and I believe that because neither of us knew what the other desired, we misunderstood one another.

How were we able to? We didn't inquire.

I sought support from my chosen family and friends, as all Queers do. When both parties are at ease, secure, and happy, lesbian sex can be truly unique. I asked lesbians what they thought lesbian sex might feel and look like.

In addition to some other information I learned regarding Lesbian sex, these are the top positions for Lesbian sex, as reported by Lesbians:

1. Doggy Style Sex

One person I spoke with, Col, prefers dog-style sex.

"Doggy style has a really horny vibe," Col remarked. "It's fantastic that you can finger them, fuck them, and eat people out in a dog-style manner. I believe that because he is in this position of power, doggy style is frequently portrayed in straight porn as a [cis] guy controlling a [cis] woman. However, if two individuals are wearing vulvas and someone is fucking them with a strap-on, the power balance in lesbian sex is altered. Despite the fact that power play is ubiquitous in sex, pleasure takes precedence over power.

"Power is messed with when gender is messed with, and pleasure results."

2. The Butler Position

The Butler Position is preferred by Imani, who was also interviewed for this article. What they said about it was as follows:

When someone is standing toward a wall with their hands on the wall, their stomach facing the wall, and either I or the other person is behind and fingering someone, I adore it. As they laughed and showed off their muscles, Imani remarked, "You know, ever since the muscles have been starting to come in a little bit, I really like anything where I can pick someone up and use a harness or strap."

Imani prefers the Crotch Lift Position as a modification for penetrative intercourse.

3. The Flag Stick Oral Sex Position

Col also explained a preferred posture that resembles the Flag Stick Oral Sex Position, stating,

"I'm a simple guy, so my go-to position is to lay on the bed and either eat someone out or be eaten out, and that's just with fingering." That is enjoyable and a classic. I believe that many individuals attempt to attribute exclusive tops and exclusive bottoms to lesbians, even if I am all for it. You're switching in many lesbian relationships! If I'm the only one at the top... Maybe I want to get fucked.

Unless I'm a pillow princess or Stone Butch.

What is Lesbian Sex Like?

Imani was questioned about what they thought was so unique about lesbian sex.

They said, "I feel like it's not always slow—sometimes it can pick up very quickly." "I want to be like the slowness," they continued.

"I also enjoy dry humping, which is when we're both nude, and there's no penetration tool or object—I fuck with a lot of that simulation. It helps me access my creativity.

How to Have Lesbian Sex

Col responded, "You need to speak with [your partner]." "Some people hate penetration, and some people love being fingered."

Col went on to say, "I am just a nervous person in general, so the challenge that I face whenever I have sex with a new person is me getting over my nervousness to ask what they want because I have no expectation of what will happen, so I have to really think, and that requires communication."

Col declared, "There isn't a formula, so if you believe there is, you're screwed." You need to figure out how to make asking sexy, which I believe it is by nature. However, because I am a socially uncomfortable person, it is embarrassing for me, but I manage to make it endearing.

Imani further underlined how crucial communication is:

"You must inquire about someone's preferences while interacting with them.

For example, you could ask, "Do you want it slower or faster, or more circular?" when fingering someone. Listening to someone's physique is another factor. However, individuals also pretend to be it, so make sure you're both fostering an atmosphere where you can express your displeasure or desire for more of something if you're not feeling it.

"I believe we have been conditioned to think about pleasure for men or AMAB people, versus women or AFAB people," Imani continued. For example, it's pretty hard to please us, but it's easy to please [men or AMAB individuals]. I believe I have become quite self-absorbed; if I am performing well, please let me know.

Imani concluded by offering some more essential tips on how to have lesbian sex:

"Don't assume you know everything just because you share parts, and don't feel pressured to base your sexual behavior on cis-heteronormative models. Don't take it personally, either. Everybody has various cravings.

Conclusion

Like any sex, lesbian sex involves permission and communication. Checking in on your sex partner or partners is always a good idea, regardless of whether you're utilizing a strap-on during dry humping or doggy-style sex.

Col stated it like way: "I believe that the essence of lesbian sex is joyful and creative. Penis-and-vagina sex typically has an orgasmic objective, but it doesn't have the same heteronormative expectations as straight sex. I mean, there are expectations with all forms of sex. In lesbian sex, the logic is immediately broken. such as "where's the penis?" The penis won't cum if it's present in the form of a dildo. Since it's phony, you need to start using your imagination.

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