7 Tips to Help a Shy Partner Open Up Sexually

All of you freaks in the sheets, don't give up. You may empower your partner's sexuality in a few ways.

Being embarrassed about having sex is reasonable in a society that demonizes pleasure and dismisses it as unnecessary. However, if you're the sexually adventurous sort, it can be challenging to have a shy partner.

Hey, my love, have a look at this soiled photo. Want to give that sexy thing a try?

"Well... I mean, perhaps. I mean... I'm not sure. (*shrugging giggly*) "All right... (However, what does that mean?!!??!)

But all of you crazies in the sheets, don't give up. You may empower your partner's sexuality in a few ways. Check them out!

1. Listen with an open mind when your partner talks about sex.

Every one of us is told at some point during our upbringing that there is something shameful about our sexuality. This is definitely something your partner has gone through. In their hearts, they might think they're ugly, that their kinks are strange, or that having sex makes them a deviant.

A person may carry these kinds of judgments with them for a very long period. They can be nearly tough to shake in some situations.

Demonstrate to your spouse that you won't use your sexual opening against them. You can accomplish this by listening to them with a sex-positive, patient, and inquisitive attitude.

2. Encourage your partner's masturbation habits.

I've known individuals who vehemently chastised their spouses for engaging in sexual activity.

"They could have me instead of jacking off. Do they not want to fuck a real person?

Unfortunately, this mindset is likely to backfire and screams insecurity. It is unlikely to make someone feel heated and bothered if you become mad at them for enjoying their own body.

Let go of any entitlement you may have, and stop taking things like this personally.

Orgasms, fantasies, and your partner's body are not yours. (An "ownership" arrangement that is enjoyable and Adutoys is null and invalid the instant the person opts out.)

Your partner's sexuality is fundamentally shaped by their interaction with their body and mind. They will find it simpler to share it with you if they are more aware of what makes them feel good about themselves.

3. Accept (or participate in?) your partner's porn use.

This builds on the previous point. Addiction to pornography is a popular subject, and its possible drawbacks are widely known. However, for most people, closeness cannot be replaced by porn. Instead, it's really a means of unwinding, discovering what makes us happy, and appreciating the multitude of fascinating things that others do.

You can use porn as a source of connection rather than criticizing your partner for it. Why and what piques their interest? Do you have any kinks in common? Do they want to try anything that you might be interested in?

You may propose watching porn together if you're game and believe they'd be open to it. Get some popcorn and engage in sultry foreplay with it.

4. When you ask about your partner's desires, try yes-or-no questions.

"What are the subjects of your fantasies?"

For many people, that question is terrifying. In our society, common, innocuous obsessions are constantly blamed on mental illness or questionable morals. What happens if you don't comprehend your partner's fetish? What happens if you have to leave them to get their response?

I wouldn't hold it against you if it turns out to be the case. Nobody else cares about what you do or don't do in a relationship.

However, you will need to grasp your partner's perspective if you want to encourage them to talk about sex.

Yes-or-no questions facilitate discussion and are much simpler to respond to. If your partner is interested in whatever you're bringing up, they'll probably be relieved that you've at least heard of it.

A pornographic video about furries is playing for me. Did you ever see anything similar?

"Has the idea of a threesome ever crossed your mind?"

One of my friends is a huge fan of pet play. Would you find it enjoyable to try something like that?

You'll give your spouse more than a blank slate if you frame your curiosity in this way.

5. Share your interests with your partner in a no-pressure way.

Sharing your sexual wants with your partner can be a terrific way to start a conversation. I'm not saying that you should send them the most intense videos on your computer. Wade into the pool instead and watch what sticks. For instance, artistic shibari pictures are a great gateway drug if you're into bondage.

"I like this image. What are your thoughts?

Additionally, respect your partner's feelings when something doesn't work. One individual cannot satisfy all of our needs, and bringing up the subject will make you appear rude.

"I hope to try anal someday."

Yes, I am aware of it. You constantly bring it up.

It doesn't look good.

6. Speak in ways that are respectful and empower your partner's confidence.

Being unlovable or unattractive prevents us from feeling sexy. Mainly, when our relationships validate those emotions, it is impossible.

Of course, you might wish your companion had better skin, was taller, leaner, or younger. Although you have the right to your preferences, your partner is not required to follow them and most likely couldn't even if they tried.

One guaranteed way to destroy your partner's libido is to use language that denigrates them. Tell them what you like about them if you want them to become more sexually open. Find a way to be honest with them while still being courteous if there is something about them that you don't find attractive, and it's preventing you from enjoying sex.

That elementary school rhyme about "Sticks and Stones" isn't relevant.

Even when we are pleased with ourselves, hurtful remarks stick with us.

7. Give your partner space from sex when they need it.

With a high libido, it can be tempting to bring up or initiate sex constantly. But it might be overpowering if your spouse doesn't share your sex drive. They could feel like an object as a result.

Please don't freak out if you feel that sex is not wanted at any moment. It's acceptable for some people not to be wired to fuck constantly. Give your spouse an opportunity to change their mind. Should they fail to do so, you can begin investigating the cause and potential remedies.