A Beginner's Guide to Strap-On Sex
The fundamentals of strap-on sex are covered in this tutorial, along with advice on how to get started, choose your harness and dildo, and create the most incredible first strap-on sex experience possible!
Welcome to the strap-on sex world! Are you new to this place? That's alright! We're here to do that. This tutorial will take you through the fundamentals of strap-on sex, such as how to begin, how to choose your harness and dildo, and some pointers to make the most out of your first strap-on sex experience!
How to Get Started
Have you spoken to your significant other? The first step is that. The first stage is enthusiastic permission, just like in any sexual action with a partner.
When discussing strap-on sex with your lover, think about asking some questions as well. Do you prefer non-realistic toys, or are realistic dildos acceptable? Do you both find particular postures unpleasant or very attractive?
What can be done to "even the playing field" if one individual has more experience than the other? Before you decide to indulge, would you like to read a few books or additional articles together? What about the choice of dildo and harness? Will they also do that together as a way to strengthen their bonds?
What happens if your significant other isn't intrigued? Testing out strapping on a dildo doesn't necessarily require a companion! You can use strapped-on dildos with your hand or even with sleeves for penile masturbation. If the act of "humping" is what you want while wearing your harness, you can tuck those penis masturbation sleeves into the couch or sex furniture.
You need to get a little more inventive if you want to play solo with your strap-on kink.
Picking a Strap-On Harness
A successful strap-on experience depends on choosing a quality harness. The dildo is fastened to your body via the harness, and a poorly fitted harness might be extremely unpleasant or so floppy that the dildo never performs what you want it to.
In addition, a poorly fitting harness may not feel very sensual, and having sex is one of the most important things!
When choosing a strap-on harness, style is the most crucial consideration. Numerous varieties of strap-on harnesses are available, and each has advantages and disadvantages of its own. Styles that are most popular include boxers, pants, thongs, and jock straps. Fortunately for us, figuring out how these harnesses differ from one another is not too difficult!
The strapped devices that you frequently perceive as a "harness" are called thong-type and jock-strap-style harnesses. Two straps run along the underside of each butt cheek in a jock-style harness. As you might expect, they resemble jock-style underwear.
The appearance of thong-style harnesses is—you guessed it! - thong-style panties. There is only one strap that runs between the legs of thong-style harnesses. The distinction between the two is based on personal preference; nevertheless, some individuals find that the jock-style harness provides more excellent dildo stability, whereas the thong-style harness is more straightforward to push aside in order to "take advantage" of the parts that are typically concealed by the harness.
Next are the boxer harnesses and the panty harnesses. With the exception of the integrated O-ring for dildo use, the harnesses resemble underwear. As you may expect, these harnesses are typically far more comfortable; in fact, some people choose to wear them all day without any problems!
Then there are the boxer harnesses and the panty harnesses, which look like underwear save for the incorporated O-ring for dildo use. As you might assume, these harnesses are usually much more comfortable; in fact, some people feel comfortable wearing them all day!
Naturally, if you're a penis-owning person venturing into the realm of strap-on sex, your list of factors will be completely different. Relax, we've got you covered. See these eight steps for selecting a strap-on harness for tips designed especially for those of us who own penises.
Choosing a Dildo
First and foremost, size is crucial when it comes to strap-on sex. Typically, handling a toy by hand fosters more extraordinary patience and visual cues, which can facilitate more comfortable stretching and slower penetration. Simply put, a hand-held toy is far more tolerant.
When you put a toy in a strap-on harness, you can't see or feel where the object is genuinely "going," and your whole body weight is behind the penetration. Because a strap-on dildo lacks nerve endings to notify the wearer of what is happening, unlike a biological penis, choosing a toy that fits properly is essential during strap-on sex.
You must first think about the comfort of the recipient. The dildo's width and length should be such that the receiver can readily accept it and will find it enjoyable. Look for a fantastic dildo that makes the recipient feel wonderful. With strap-on sex, you may actually use a dildo of any shape, which adds to the enjoyment! Make use of that! Be careful to choose a dildo that is comfortable for the recipient. Stretching is not the best use of this time.
The comfort and enjoyment of the strap-on wearer may be the second thing you want to think about. Are you seeking clitoral pleasure when engaging in strap-on intercourse? If that is the case, the best experience might be obtained from a dildo designed for clitoral pleasure or one with a flat base. Does strap-on sex cause discomfort when direct stimulation occurs? Perhaps a dildo with a suction cup base would be more roomy for you. For your dildo to fit into (and remain in!) your strap-on harness, it must have a flared base.
Third, keep in mind that the dildo is rigid. Under pressure, incredibly soft dildos are likely to "bend"—and guess what? When strapping a dildo on, a person's body weight exerts a lot of strain.
The firmness of the dildo should be moderate to very firm. This lessens the possibility that it would "crumple" under pressure and continuously slide out, making penetration more straightforward.
Aside from the strap-on harness, make sure the toys you purchase will serve you well if you're searching for a dildo that can pull double duty!
Tips for Your First Strap-On Sex
Like anything else in life, things will be unfamiliar the first few times you try them, and they may not go as well as you'd like. That is merely a component of acquiring new knowledge! However, no one wants their sexual encounter to be uncomfortable or full of issues. Let's see if these five suggestions can be helpful.
1. Practice Your Harness and Dildo Solo
A totally new experience can be had when using a dildo and strap-on harness. At first, the harness, in particular, may feel confusing or unnatural on your body, especially as you're adjusting it further to fit yourself. (Avoid adjusting the straps? Think of a harness similar to a panty.)
In order to relieve some of the strain, we advise you to remove the harness and dildo from the packaging when you are alone. After giving them both a thorough wash, allow them to dry.
After that, put the harness on and slide the dildo inside it. Check out the sensation. The straps can be adjusted as needed. See where the new appendage feels most comfortable on your body by moving it about for a bit. To determine the ideal location for the dildo's base, try stroking it a few times. For extra sensation, some people like to position it directly above the clitoris, while others prefer a higher position because direct pressure in those delicate areas may be too much.
You have a little more room to customize this pseudo-strappy lingerie to your preferences and boost your confidence for the next time you pull it out in front of your spouse without having to worry about someone else observing you while you get used to wearing it.
2. Try Non-Penetration First
It's not necessary to utilize your new strap-on for penetrative intercourse the first time. It can take a lot of trial and error to figure out the angles needed to penetrate someone, especially if you're not used to doing so!
Consider conducting a strictly "no inserting" session during your first paired strap-on session rather than concentrating on determining the penetration angles. This lets you both savor the sensation of the dildo, instinctively locate areas where it would fit naturally if you only moved your hips a little bit more, and prolong the anticipation of finally putting that strap-on cock inside someone. It enables you to use your time for inquiry and discovery to create a playful and sensuous bonding experience. It's difficult to refuse that!
3. Playful Sex is a Great Introduction
There is undoubtedly a moment for passionate, hot sex when every second must get you and your lover closer to experiencing great pleasure.
That time, though, is most likely not when you have your first strap-on sex. As previously stated, it will take some time for both of you to understand the angles and movements. Thus, it is strongly advised that you approach your first strap-on sex sessions with a lighthearted attitude.
It's common for me to hear the phrase "Uh, you fell out" during strap-on sex, so be ready to laugh, discuss the best course of action, and enjoy this novel experience together. Once you've gotten into a better rhythm and figured out how to enjoy strap-on play together, the sexy and passionate aspects can go forward.
4. Use a Familiar Dildo
It is the dildo itself that is half the "battle" of strap-on sex. Using a dildo, you're not familiar with exacerbates that battle. You'll be able to tell how much pressure it takes to bend your favorite dildo and gauge how "long" your factory-added dick is if you know what it is.
If this is your first time having strap-on sex, try using a dildo that has been popular for some time. It'll be easier to get it slipped into your partner in the first place because you'll have a general idea of how long it is (which will cut down on unintentional slip-outs!).
5. Ask the Receptive Partner to Do the Work
The actual thrusting is half the fight for strap-on sex. Since thrusting is a new activity for your body to learn, it may be far more taxing than you initially thought if you've never worn a strap-on harness and penetrated someone.
Are you concerned about appearing foolish or experiencing anxiety? Request that your receptive partner do the majority of the job. You might not be accustomed to being the one "ridden," but they're probably used to "riding" anything. If strap-on sex is new to you, person-on-top positions may be ideal.
You can enjoy a view that you don't often see, and the receptive partner can regulate the penetration angle and enjoy the strap-on sensation without making you feel anxious.
Strap-On Sex While Plus-Sized
Do you have a more significant body than your partner, or are you concerned that certain sex positions won't suit your strap-on sex? There, too, we've got you covered. As a person of size, these ten suggestions will offer even additional strategies to make strap-on sex as enjoyable and stress-free as feasible!
