A Parade of Submissives: What Kind of Bottom Are You?

Do you consider yourself a submissive but are unsure about your place in society? Below is a list of some of the various kinds of bottoms!

There isn't a single picture-postcard representation of a broad BDSM enthusiast, just as there isn't a single example of someone who enjoys being the recipient.

The list is almost endless and includes canes, floggers, humiliation, sexual dominance, and bondage. The variety of these kinky things and/or activities is roughly equal to the variety of bottoms.

Even the idea of being submissive might be deceptive because some people like being anything but. They may find themselves in what may seem like a bottom-ish position, but for them, getting there entails just as much struggle as it does surrender.

In honor of this diversity, let's compile a list of some of these various bottoming techniques. Yes, it seems a little hypocritical, but the point here is to illustrate some of the different types that exist rather than to define what constitutes submissive play.

I have performed my duties even somewhat effectively. In that case, this should result in the celebration of these distinctions while also debunking the misconceptions that there is a right or wrong way to be a slave, a bottom, a submissive, or whatever term you choose.

To Thine Own Self Be True

I'd like to make a brief digression before we reach our list. But fear not—this will not be a protracted and convoluted journey. If anything, it's a short hop: the separation between the characters in a scene, a relationship, or a BDSM dynamic.

Your identity and interests should always be self-defined. Yes, you can adopt a specific behavior or play a part, but you should always decide for yourself. People who play with you should respect you for who you are, just as you should respect them for who they are.

There is discussion, agreement, and development between these two points. It is hoped that everyone involved has a good time. It's time to move on if you are being informed that your preferences and personality are not the "correct" way to be obedient. This also applies to dominants. If you believe there is a "right" or "wrong" way to do something, please resist the temptation to do it yourself.

Instead, create your path—safely, sensibly, and voluntarily, of course.

Now that we get that out of the way, let's find comfortable seats, take some popcorn, and watch our subservient procession pass by.

The Parade of Submissives

The Smart-Assed-Masochist (SAM)

Do you recall how we discussed how some submissives are anything but?

Introducing the bottom who is anything but submissive: the Smart-Assed-Masochist. SAMs may come across as spoilt, brattish, overly critical, or even completely rude to their tops, but that's how they prefer it, and tops who like SAMs adore their attitude.

Once more, this is merely an example of someone believing that this action is not "right" for a submissive. SAMs are occasionally reprimanded for "topping from the bottom." It's successful if it benefits all parties, and for good reason.

The Little

Although this submissive type may not be a little in and of themselves, they might occasionally give off the impression that they are emotionally growing up: playful on one end of the spectrum or highly vulnerable on the other. As long as this emotional response is conveyed to, comprehended by, and approved by the highest authority involved, there is nothing wrong with it.

The Domestic

This submissive enjoys doing household chores to please their ego or using them to arouse their sexual or emotional desires directly. As every one of us possesses unique abilities, some housewives may excel in cooking, while others may excel in cleaning. Understanding where the submit and dominant find pleasure in domestic work is crucial when it comes to the domestic. Setting up a rewarding or punishing system that works or is enjoyable for all parties is the next stage.

The Punisher

It's not the Marvel anti-hero; however, it's interesting to speculate about what type of kink Frank Castle may be into. A subordinate who tips the scales of wrongdoing in order to receive punishment—sometimes intentionally, unconsciously—is a punisher. It could be dropping a glass or a plate or "forgetting" a crucial aspect of their behavior that they agreed upon with their dom. However, some doms may believe that a genuine error or accident is the submissive's attempt to get punished. Therefore, it's essential to know that you are dealing with an authentic punisher. On the other hand, if you do have a punisher, you may want to limit their access to the fine china or provide them with some hand-me-downs to clean, just in case.

The Pet

Similar to the tiny, submissives can occasionally change into something else entirely, in this case, becoming animalistic people—imagine a playful puppy or a ferocious wolf. The problem with pets is that communication can be difficult to sustain. For this reason, it's critical to develop a few practical strategies to maintain those channels of communication or even to put the scene on hold altogether.

The Worthless Object

Whatever their shape, this kind of submission demands careful, detailed discussion and, of course, communication. A submissive who derives sexual or emotional pleasure from being humiliated—either verbally, physically, or by a combination of the two—is a worthless object. The extra-firm counsel for communication and negotiation stems from the fact that humiliation play can be likened to playing with dynamite. A single incorrect action, word, or behavior can transform a pleasant setting into one that is emotionally devastating.

In this case, I recommend moving really gently and checking in often to make sure that both the dominant and the submissive are doing well. Respecting each person's boundaries and needs is also crucial, particularly when it comes to aftercare. Never forget one of the most lovely sentiments in the world of BDSM: even if you appreciate being treated like a useless item, you should leave a scene feeling better than when you entered it.

The enslaved person

There are several types of enslaved people, just as there are various types of submissives. We'll talk about the enslaved person as someone who gives up most or all of their life to their owner. Behavior (with or without their owner), nutrition, sexual activity, and even income can all fall under this category. Although this may sound intense, and it certainly can be, it should only ever be carried out with everyone's express consent and the option to change or even quit the relationship at any moment. Slavery is not something that should be approached lightly or casually, even though it is a frequent fantasy and a prevalent element in a lot of fiction. It ought to be done gradually and carefully.

The Rebel

Reminiscent of the SAM, the insurgent is there to be subdued. For them, a crucial component of winning is the battle. The SAM typically insists on being the recipient of a top's handiwork, which is how they differ from one another. Despite sharing the same objective, the rebels will continue to battle and resist until the moment of surrender.

Always Be Your Own Submissive

Ultimately, it is entirely up to you what type of submissive you are. Enjoy the difference! It could be one of these, a crazy combination of several of them, or something entirely and exquisitely different.

But keep in mind that regardless of the format of your contribution, don't allow anyone to convince you that what and who you are is incorrect. No matter who you play with or are owned by, you will always be your ideal submissive as long as your play is safe, rational, and consensual.