A Vampire's Kiss: A Guide to Erotic Biting

To sate your ravenous appetite, there's nothing more delicious than biting into your beloved.

Biting is quite popular right now, whether it's a clamped jaw on a thigh or a nip on the neck.

Odaxelagnia, as a fetish, actually refers to sexual arousal through biting or being bitten. In what Alfred Kinsey called "mild sadism," half of the respondents to his poll were intrigued and became aroused by biting. What's going on, then?

"Biting can be very primal; your body and mouth are close to your partner," says kink-positive and sex-conforming psychologist Dr. Liz Powell. Flogging, for example, requires space, whereas biting is far more personal. Furthermore, common fantasy animals with sexual overtones, such as werewolves and vampires, can arouse some people.

Even if there is no direct correlation between being a vampire and pleasurable biting, we can't help but think about it, especially as Halloween creeps closer. Biting does, however, elicit sensuous arousal that is savage, animal-like, and highly erotic, even though it is distinct from blood play (that is a whole other subject).

In the "Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices," Dr. Brenda Love states that one of the "easiest and most accepted methods" of masochism and sadism in the bedroom is sexual biting.

How can you start bringing up the subject of biting? Let's start with some pointers and advice for novices who wish to cause major harm—and we mean that in the sexiest way imaginable.

Erotic Biting: Finding That Sweet Spot

Take it gradually when you start your vampire escapades. Communicate what feels nice and what isn't working if you or your spouse have never had a sensual bite. The sensitivity of each person's erogenous zones varies; therefore, it's critical to communicate verbally and freely to negotiate those waters. When you're unsure of what works sexually, grabbing someone's neck or nibbling on their ear can be a good place to start.

When we communicate more about what we want people to do than what we DON'T wish them to do, things usually work out the best. For example, if someone likes to bite their neck and shoulders but not their inner thighs, they may say, "I like biting on my neck and shoulders," according to Dr. Powell.

Where to Bite - and Not Bite

A few major sensual hotspots are frequently the subject of highly intense biting. The collarbone, neck, lips, thighs, butt, breasts, and wrists are some of these places. First and foremost, though, avoid ruining the mood by causing harm to your spouse.

Although many parts of the body, such as the vulva or shaft of the penis, should not be bitten, they can undoubtedly be grazed.

"Unless you break the skin, biting is a pretty low risk activity," said Dr. Powell. Before biting, people with compromised immune systems might want to have their partners take a shower or disinfect the region. You should begin at relatively modest intensity levels until you are aware of how easily your skin might bruise or break. As with all impact/pain play, welts and bruises can be lessened by warming up the area with softer sensations.

It goes without saying that biting can leave scars. Over time, using teeth and suction together can result in a bruise or hickey. Make sure your spouse understands this and that you pick places that are easy to conceal and won't be seen by others right away.

How to Deliver That Bite

Any bite should begin lightly before applying more pressure with your partner's permission. Communication is at the core of this moment, as it is with all aspects of sex and relationships. The bites should be rapid, the skin should not be pulled too hard, and the skin should not be broken. One of the best ways to increase tension in the bedroom is to ease into the situation and the bite's intensity.

As with most things, it's a good idea to find out from your partner where and how they want to be bitten before jumping in. Dr. Powell advised them to try out various biting methods and spot intensities if they were unsure.

The sexologist and psychologist Havelock Ellis stated that the "impulse to bite is also a part of the tactile element which lies at the origin of kissing."

Biting, however, goes a step further. It can create a delightful and powerful emotional connection during sex and is extremely primitive, even feral. Nothing is more satisfying than sinking your teeth into your sweetheart to sate your ravenous appetite.