Tips for First-Time Sex Toy Users

I was 22 when I tried my first sex toy.

I had slipped into a college internship where I reviewed toys, porn, and other sexual aids for an adult personal website, which provided the experience. I only had one sexual partner at the time, and he was also emotionally and sexually abusive. I had actually been forced into my first penetrative intercourse by him. I have shunned sexual contact ever since that relationship ended.

So trust me when I tell you that I was a little out of my element when it came to sex writing.

From a drawer full of toys, I selected a glossy purple, double-ended dildo as my first toy. I was unaware that it was a couple's toy designed for two people to use at once. You can probably imagine how that went for someone single and not having sex with anyone.

I had a much better second experience with a small, waterproof clitoral vibrator. I became a vibrator evangelist after that. The only thing I regret is how long it took me to take charge of my erotic enjoyment.

The Glories of Sex Toys

Although they are not required for play, sex toys can be helpful in a variety of ways. They can let you explore and find the places and experiences that make you happy. When you want an orgasm right away, and your hand isn't working, they can be helpful. They can be a fun addition to partner play, a method to add some variation or a way to get more stimulation. They can help with essential stress reduction.

However, how do you know where to begin if you have never used a sex toy before?

Consider the Type(s) of Stimulation You Enjoy

Sex toys come in a wide variety of forms. SO MANY. Asking yourself, however, "What feels good to me?" is an excellent place to start when choosing a toy.

To start, do you like stimulation that is penetrative or non-penetrative?

There are a ton of smooth, ridged, and rainbow-colored toys available if you want penetration. You'll need one with a flared base if you're going to engage in anal play or a set of anal beads if you want to start smaller. Some penetrative devices are designed with g-spot or prostate stimulation in mind. Of course, countless different dildos resemble penises and can be used to penetrate the vagina. You can bet that there is a toy that will satisfy your desires if you have a specific button you wish to press.

You don't have to restrict your play to the clitoris, but if you're seeking external stimulation, a clitoral vibrator might be more your style. These kinds of toys provide you with a great chance to explore more erogenous zones. Run them along your nipples, up your inner thighs, and wherever else you think the vibration could be pleasant.

Of course, certain gadgets, such as the dual-action "rabbit vibrators," let you feel penetration while simultaneously stimulating your clitoris directly. After all, you may still find pleasure in extra stimulation even if you adore penetrative sex. (::raises hand::)

Additionally, I should not overlook readers who possess a penis! A masturbation sleeve can be the perfect choice if you're looking for something to improve your solo performance.

To Vibrate… or Not to Vibrate

Additionally, you should think about whether you want your toy to vibrate at all. Your vaginal toy may or may not buzz. The same is true for nipple clamps and cock rings. Are vibrations too strong, or do they enhance your experience?

Do you want all the bells and whistles or just the essentials if you're searching for some positive vibes? Different vibrators have different patterns, intensities, and speeds. You can program in your preferred patterns with others. While some are designed for direct stimulation, others are contoured to cradle your most erogenous zones.

Furthermore, how discrete must your gadget be? Small clit sensations that whined as loudly as weed whackers have happened to me. Make sure the toy you use has softer vibrations if you want the whole family to be unaware that you are masturbating. You should be able to gauge the amount you're getting into by looking at product descriptions and customer reviews.

Take a Look at Other Features

If you're shopping for a vibrator, you'll see that some run on batteries and others have a USB cord for charging. These rechargeable vibrators are frequently more expensive initially. Still, over time, you'll save money on battery replacements and enjoy the extra satisfaction of knowing you've made a more ecologically friendly choice.

Think about where you want to utilize your item as well. It must be waterproof if you intend to use it in the bathtub.

Lastly, think about the materials your toy was made of. Stainless steel, glass, and medical-grade silicone are examples of materials that are safe for the body. Since the United States has no laws governing sex toys, it is your responsibility to ensure that the material used to construct your toy is not potentially harmful to your health.

Using Toys for Partner Play

Of course, you and your lover can play with any of the toys listed above. However, there are also some devices designed especially for playing with a couple (not simply that doomed double dildo I tried to review 20 years ago).

For instance, some toys have a remote control that lets one person "wear" the toy while the other adjusts the vibrations' speed and intensity. In order to prolong an erection and stimulate the clitoris during penetrative intercourse, vibrating c-rings are designed to be worn at the base of the penis (and occasionally the testicles). For people without a penis of their own who wish to penetrate their lover, there exist strap-ons.

Discuss with your significant other what you two might like, and then choose something together!

Don't Forget This Important Ingredient

Naturally, a bottle of personal lubricant is the ideal accessory for every sex toy. These also come in a wide range of flavors, including cotton candy, silicone, oil, and water-based. The most crucial things to bear in mind are that oil-based lubes should never be used with latex condoms, and that silicone-based lubes should be used with caution when handling certain toys since they may swell or deteriorate slightly, making them more challenging to clean. Remember that the premium material used in Adutoys silicone toys works well with their silicone-based lubrication.

You can always use our helpful quiz to find the ideal lube for you if you're feeling overwhelmed.

Happy Shopping!

I understand if all of this seems like a lot. I do. I mean, it's enough to make anyone either throw up their hands and buy EVERYTHING or curl up in a corner, wracked with sexual frustration and misery. Who, me? (::cough cough::

Fortunately, there are locations where you can browse for toys and manipulate them to get a better feel for how they feel in your hands and how strong the vibrations might be. Additionally, you can begin with this sex toy survey, as I am aware that many of us feel more at ease shopping online. An Adutoys party can be the solution when you're ready to see some toys in person! Give a partner an opportunity to show you toys and other essentials for sex if you and your girlfriends enjoy the concept of a little get-together.

Happy shopping, everybody. I'm eager to hear about your first experience!