Anal Play 101: The Beginner's Guide to Butt Fun
We shouldn't drag our feet over it. Anal play does exist. In today's sexually liberated world, it is not only a thing but also gaining popularity. Indeed, according to one survey, 43% of men and 37% of women had tried anal intercourse. Why shouldn't we, too? Whatever you want to call it, backdoor play, D-in-B sex, strap-on play, or pegging is a chance to expand your sexual experiences in the bedroom, discover a whole new range of pleasures, and, most importantly, become closer to your spouse. This is a trend that is here to stay.
You may be wondering where to start, regardless of whether you're prepared to experience anal sex or are just considering it. Everything you might need to know about anal sex—down to the specifics—is covered in this post.
Let's begin at the very bottom.
Why Does Anal Sex Feel Good?
The fact that butt fun is enjoyable is one of the main arguments in favor of eliminating the social stigma associated with it. The majority of the anus's thousands of nerve endings are located near the opening. Even in the absence of penetration, the pleasure of this stimulation is sufficient to justify exploring new ground. And there's yet more.
Anal play can provide significant pleasure to the prostate or P-spot for people with penises. This erogenous zone, which is made up of nerve-dense muscle tissue, is commonly referred to as the male G-spot. It is situated around two inches within the rectum, toward the belly. Some people may experience a prostate orgasm without ever touching their penis since this area is so sensitive. For a "full body" feeling, some people might choose to stimulate both simultaneously.
Anal intercourse for vaginal owners stimulates the erectile tissue that is attached to the G-spot. With more than 9,000 nerve endings in one location, there is a great deal of potential pleasure.
Have you become thrilled yet? You are, of course. Hold on, though, because back-door play involves a bit more preparation than P-in-V sex or other forms of the game. Now, while we're at it, let's talk about some crucial preparation work and some fundamental anatomy.
Engaging in "The Talk" About Butt Fun
First things first. Deciding to engage in anal play can be exhilarating. As with all forms of sex, start by discussing with your partner what they feel comfortable doing and what they would like to try. The truth is that not everyone is a good fit for anal, and that's okay. Before proceeding, determine whether you agree.
Furthermore, lubricating up and slipping in won't work, despite what TV shows and movies could make you think. Throughout the entire procedure, communication between you and your spouse is essential. This is the moment to speak up, even if you're typically a pretty quiet person during intercourse. Discuss your feelings, what's working, and what isn't with your spouse. Inform them when you're feeling well, as well as when you're in pain or uncomfortable! In order to feel fabulous and get the big O, this is a great experience for building communication and trust with your partner.
Prep Work
When it comes to anal play, there's probably one thing you're still worried about, even after drinking your morning coffee, taking care of business, and taking a really soapy shower: poop.
The truth is that poop happens occasionally. That's the way things are. There's no assurance that the event will be completely poop-free, even with all of your preparation. Although some fecal matter may still be there, lay down some soft towels in advance if you're highly concerned. Additionally, condoms can be placed over toys or body parts.
Special enemas are available to help prepare you for backdoor play if you want to be as clean as possible. With everything you need to feel extra fresh, XR Brands' Clean stream Inflatable Enema Plug is popular.
No matter how you prepare, keep in mind that all intercourse is a little messy, regardless of the hole you're sticking at, due to bodily fluids and lubricants. And everything will work itself out if the worst happens.
Anatomy 101
We are providing a brief refresher course in case you were caught dozing off at the back of the class during Anatomy 101.
Since you clicked on a piece on anal play, we're very confident you already know that your butthole is your anus. However, let's take a closer look. Your sphincter muscle, which keeps your feces in until you're ready to expel them, controls the anus. Learning to relax those muscles would likely require a gradual approach and some practice. You can begin receiving toys of varying sizes and trying out various forms of pleasure once those muscles have relaxed.
The rectum is located farther into your anal canal. Anal penetration into the rectum can be used to massage either the G-spot or the prostate (the P-spot), depending on your anatomy. Although different persons experience various emotions, both men and women have reported feeling a pleasurable sense of "fullness" during butt movement.
If you can only recall one crucial anatomical fact, it should be that the rectum and anus do not self-lubricate as the vagina does. Depending on the kind of toys you are using, you will need to add lubricants to your back door play. Now, let's discuss those.
Lubes for Anal Play
We'll reiterate what we've already said: butt action requires lube, lube, and MORE LUBE. Since the anus and rectum won't be contributing to the lubrication, you'll need a little extra aid in the slipperiness department, regardless of how turned on you or your partner are.
In general, thicker lubricants provide a bit more "padding" to make the experience less frictional; some are even made especially for butt play. However, you should also make sure that the lubricant you're using is appropriate for your devices. Keep in mind that silicone toys should not be used with lubricants that include silicone because they can break down the material.
For those seeking a lubricant that accommodates sensitivity, the meticulously formulated mix of Wicked Jelle Anal Lubricant is an excellent option. This thick gel is completely safe for the body and contains no glycerin or parabens. In addition to being long-lasting, the highly concentrated solution has a balanced pH.
Boy Butter is a fantastic choice for both anal and vaginal play because they provide a large variety of water-based lubes for experimentation. You should never use the same condom for vaginal, anal, and return purposes. People, keep those germs apart!
Finally, if you're not using a silicone toy, Pjur's Original lube is a silicone-based lubricant that works well with latex condoms and has an exceptionally long lifespan.
Bucked provides a line of pH-balanced lubricants explicitly made for anal use that is enriched with vitamin E and aloe vera for a comfortable, smooth ride.
Toy Talk: Beginner Toys for Anal Play
Consider what you may do to build arousal without using the fantastic gadgets that are available for anal play—and there are many of them.
Rimming
Start by demonstrating affection for other body regions that your spouse enjoys having licked, kissed, sucked, bit, stroked, and touched if this is your first time exploring anal contact. Use your finger or your tongue around the rim of your partner's anus to assist them get used to the feeling of anal stimulation after they're turned on. (Therefore, "rimming.")
This Rocks-Off Petite Anal Teaser, which has a small girth and seven distinct vibration functions, is a perfect place to start when you're ready to introduce a toy.
Butt Plugs, Beads, and Beginner Kits
Butt plugs must be mentioned while discussing anal play. Butt plugs are an excellent way to get started with backdoor play because they are made to expand the anus and stimulate the nerve endings. Since they come in different sizes, you can start small and progress to larger plugs as you feel comfortable. If you'd like, you can even experiment with dildos and penises at a higher level. On their own, butt plugs are fantastic because they provide a sense of "fullness. "Their base holds items in place and makes recovery simple, and their tapered insertion facilitates entry.
The Luxe Beginner Silicone Butt Plug Kit by Blush is a great starter kit if you're looking for one. The three different sizes let you progressively increase the girth and length as you feel comfortable, and each plug has a satin-smooth silicone finish.
Additionally, NS Novelties Rear Assets is an excellent option if you're feeling very upscale.
This is an excellent opportunity to bring up double penetration for vaginal users. For a genuinely full-body experience, think about mixing vaginal and anal penetration (with a partner or toys) as you get more at ease with anal penetration.
Another approach to feeling full is with beads, which can provide a seductive feeling that will make you tense as you enter or exit. Blush's B: You may quickly get into the string of beads with Yours Basic Beads because they start small and get bigger over time. For optimal pleasure, your lover can draw out an easy retrieval ring slowly and steadily.
Choose a beginner's kit to make things easy if you're feeling overwhelmed by all the alternatives. Everything you need to get started is included in the B-Vibe Anal Training and Education Beginners Kit, which also includes a travel bag, lube, an enema, three different-sized plugs, and a helpful manual.
Or have a look at Pipedream's Anal Fantasy Beginner's Fantasy Kit, which comes with a variety of gadgets to experiment with different forms of stimulation. There is something for everyone, including prostate massagers, plugs, finger sleeves, and beaded probes.
Medium to Advanced Play
The universe opens up even more (pun intended) after you begin to feel at ease with insertion. Let's discuss toys that vibrate.
Nexus's Revo Slim is a revolving massager for the prostate and perineum. The technical term for the area between the penis and the anus is the perineum, and it is teeming with nerve endings that seek pleasure. With a wide variety of vibrating combinations, the Revo Slim, which is made of velvety soft silicone, is ideal for targeting both areas.
Both novice and expert gamers will love the Rocks-Off O-Boy Massager, which is also excellent for stimulating the prostate. You can either appreciate its amazing magic alone or with a companion.
You can even get technical with anal play if that isn't thrilling enough. We-Vibe's Ditto is a vibrating plug that produces strong, rumbly feelings. You can use the We-Connect app on your smartphone to experiment with the various modes, or you can give it to your partner and allow them to take complete control of your enjoyment.
You may be wondering how harnesses fit into the picture after all this talk about toys. Shall we get started with pegging now?
What in the World is Pegging?
It's possible that you've heard the term "pegging" and thought it just meant anal penetration. There are two possible answers: "yes" and "no."
Pegging, in its broadest sense, is when someone penetrates another person while wearing a strap. Dan Savage, an LGBT activist, came up with the term in 2010 after deciding that heterosexual couples needed a term to describe the anal intercourse that occurs when a woman wears a strap and the man is the receiver. 'Punting' and 'bobbing' were also contenders in the literary competition, but pegging ultimately prevailed. Anyone can enjoy pegging, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, although the phrase is still frequently used in heterosexual circumstances.
Why does pegging feel good?
Anybody having a butt or the partner who is receiving it will be the first person to be discussed. We've already talked about the buttload (sorry) of pleasure-inducing nerve endings associated with the anus. However, it can introduce men who have never attempted anal penetration to a whole new spectrum of sensations, especially prostate stimulation.
Furthermore, pegging has benefits beyond the recipient's enjoyment. When pegging, women can experience pleasure in a variety of ways. Vulva owners can have pleasure from each push on the pubic mound or clitoris, depending on where the dildo is positioned. In order to continuously stimulate the clitoris during pegging, some harnesses are even made with a convenient tiny pocket that can carry a vibrator.
And that only covers the physical aspect. Emotionally, pegging can be as exciting as it is physically. When partners are receptive to this change, pegging can increase closeness and trust by reversing the script of which partner is penetrating the other.
Rounding it all out
Let's review some of the most crucial butt fun tips, regardless of whether you're just getting started with rimming and slender toys or are prepared to try pegging.
- Talk to your partner about it. It is essential!
- More lube, more lube, and possibly some towels
- Start slowly.
- Talk to your significant other (and then talk some more).
- Have fun! Or not! There's no damage if you try it and don't like it. Follow your instincts.
