Are You Hot to 69? How to 69 Without Suffocating Someon

Since it's almost hard to discuss oral sex without someone bringing it up, let's speak about 69.

And there's a good explanation for it! It resembles the unicorn of oral sex encounters. It goes pretty well when 69 goes well. Pleasuring your partner is a turn-on for both of you, and you both get to enjoy it at the same time. Simultaneous orgasms and an overall enjoyable experience are possible outcomes!

The issue, though, is that 69 isn't often the unicorn of sex. For a lot of couples, it's the villain who promises an incredible time if you go to the terrible, dark castle, but once you enter, everything goes horribly wrong.

This is due to the fact that numerous factors contribute to 69 working effectively for a couple. For example:

• Height. It might be very challenging to get the angles correct if one person's torso is longer than the other's.
• Size of the body. Adding body weight on top of the bottom partner may not be a good idea because thicker bodies can make it harder to get your mouth where you want it.
• Orgasm ease.How readily each partner can orgasm also enters the picture, for want of a better way to put it. For most couples, 69 is only sustainable for a certain amount of time. It might not be feasible to remain in the 69 sex position for so long if it typically takes more than an hour to achieve climax.
• Distractions could cause problems. Similarly, if one person must be able to give oral sex in order to get an orgasm, it will probably be challenging for them to orgasm from the oral sex they are receiving.

What is 69 in Sex?

A little lost? Alright, before we get started, let's make sure we're going over the fundamentals.

69 is a position for simultaneous oral sex. In other words, both individuals engage in oral intercourse at precisely the same moment.

This indicates that oral sex is being given and received by both parties at the same time.

On a level surface, both lovers lie down in the "standard" posture for 69. However, 69 can be performed in any posture that allows both people to engage in oral sex at the same time, such as standing, kneeling, or making use of furniture.

The sole actual requirement for 69 is that both parties must be able to engage in oral sex at the same time.

Tips to Make 69 Better

Whether you are a novice or an experienced 69'er, let's suppose you are hoping for an incredible 69 encounter. There are a few things you can do to improve your simultaneous oral sex experience, even though certain aspects (like the ones described above!) are beyond your control.

Here are some pointers to improve 69:

Experiment with 69 Position Variations

Although one person lies down in the "standard" 69 position, with their partner lying on top of them, there is no requirement that you perform 69 in that manner. Many people find that the "standard" 69 arrangement suffocates the bottom partner, which isn't enjoyable for anyone.

To see if a creative tweak could make you both like this simultaneous oral sex option, try some of the 69 alternatives listed at the end of this article before giving up on 69. Since placement has such a significant impact on your satisfaction, I would really start with switching up your 69 positions.

Add Sex Toys

The precise angle needed to provide 69 may be a little taxing, even with new position modifications, and it may put a completely new strain on your jaw muscles. If so, think about including some sex toys in your 69 excursions.

There are several advantages to using your mouth instead of a sex toy:

• Calm down. Switching to your hands and a sex toy gives you a quick break, especially if you need to hold your neck at a certain angle to gratify your spouse. As the sex toy does all the work, let your neck drop backwards into a comfortable position.
• Requires less concentration. It requires far less concentration to hold a vibrator or move a penis stroker up and down than it does to try to control your mouth and lips. Using a sex toy can give you a mental vacation while still giving you pleasure if you need some downtime to concentrate on the pleasure you're getting.
• Give your jaw a break. There comes a time when your jaw needs a rest, regardless of how much experience you have with oral sex. You can help your poor muscles recover by switching to a sex toy to maintain stimulation.
• Fresh Feelings. Changing up the sensations can be a terrific technique to hit "refresh" for the recipient while still adding pleasure. This can prevent the body from becoming overly used to the sensations of oral sex.

Just keep in mind to consider which sex toys will be most effective in the close-quarters sex position that is necessary for 69! This might not work well with a large wand massager, but it might! You tell me!), but it might work wonders with a penis vibrator (like the Satisfyer Men Wand or Wild Flower Enby) or a bullet vibrator (like the We-Vibe Tango X, FemmeFunn Dioni, or Hot Octopuss DiGiT).

Additionally, don't forget to prepare those sex toys in advance. Getting out of bed in the middle of sex is something no one wants!

Take Turns Giving and Receiving 69

Nothing requires that your 69 experience be continuous and synchronous at all times.

Instead, when in the 69 position, think of sharing pleasure in turns. While the other partner offers, allow one partner to take a rest and receive. After a little while, switch places. If your mouth is too full to speak, try the wrestling-popularized double-tap on the thigh or ground to indicate that you wish to switch.

Swapping can help you reach that precipice without worrying about continually switching your brain on, especially if you're struggling to unwind long enough to achieve orgasm.

Swap Your Body's Positions

Is one partner consistently at the top or the bottom? Think about switching.

This can help ease some of the "suffocating" feelings that some bottom partners complain about during 69, in addition to switching up the angles for both parties.

You'll prefer this alternate positioning to the one you were initially trying!

Use Furniture to Your Advantage

It might be challenging to get the angles "right" during 69. In addition to avoiding smothering your partner, you must somehow direct both of their genitalia into the proper position for oral sex using the power of yogic magic.

People may find this extremely aggravating for a reason: it's complicated. It's that easy!

Whether or not it is specifically designed for sex, using furniture can be a brilliant place to start. You can lessen the strain on your muscles by using sex furniture to hold your bodies at various angles.

For instance, a long ottoman that sits at the foot of the bed would be the ideal piece of furniture for 69 sex. To get into position, the top partner can stand, straddling the bench, while the lower partner can lie out on the ottoman. In addition to allowing the top partner to quickly switch positions by shifting their feet, standing lessens the amount of body weight applied to the laying partner. It benefits both parties!

However, there are more options besides standard household furniture. Here, too, furniture explicitly made for sex can be helpful. For example, a Liberator Wedge can be slipped beneath the hips of the bottom partner to provide height. The top partner won't have to put as much strain on their neck to hit the right location when the hips are raised. A Liberator Esse Chaise offers some of the best positions for 69 if you want to go all out because it raises the bottom partner's head and hips (imagine a U-shape!) for improved access everywhere.

And an aerial yoga hammock or sex swing? Even for 69, it may be fantastic! The person on the bottom will be subjected to less weight when the top partner rests their chest and abdomen in the sex swing, making it more straightforward for the top partner to maintain the position for extended periods!

Finding the ideal combinations to lessen the pain and pressure spots you're experiencing in the 69 position requires some creativity with the furniture in your house and the sex furniture you have access to.

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Stop Trying 69!

Well, you probably don't want to read a post about how to do 69 that gives you that kind of advice.

However, regardless of how many changes are made, 69 isn't all that enjoyable for many people. People become too preoccupied with giving pleasure to truly concentrate on getting it, bodies don't match, and claustrophobia sets in.

That's perfectly OK! 69 doesn't have to be for you; "things you can enjoy during sex" are not governed by any authority. Consider having the oral sex you currently enjoy and then switching locations if 69 isn't working for you both. You can also introduce them to other sex activities that have a "sharing" theme, such as sharing vibrators, sharing dildos, and more.

69 Sex Position Variations to Try

To improve your experience, I suggested experimenting with several 69-sex position variants. Let's now discuss those roles and how they can be beneficial.

All Pleasure, All Bodies

Imagine both partners rolling onto their sides while you consider the typical 69 position. That's the essence of the All Bodies, All Pleasure stance!

When the normal 69 position is rolled onto its side, neither partner is bearing the other's entire body weight. The All Bodies, All Pleasure position can be considerably simpler to enter and stay in than the typical 69 position since it allows both parties to easily move their heads for breathing and angle adjustment, and the soft thighs act as head pillows.

Adjust It: In this posture, you may be acutely aware of how heavy your thighs are. Consider placing chairs strategically so that either person may rest their leg against a surface to lessen leg strain if neither party feels comfortable with their thighs serving as ear muffs. You can also practice this position against a wall or bed.

Try It With: One arm is probably out of the question while both partners are lying on their sides. However, the All Bodies, All Pleasure posture can be a terrific way to use sex toys, especially anal toys, for the arms that aren't imprisoned by body weight. If either partner enjoys it, the anal entrance may be left open for enjoyable business when the legs are parted to accommodate the other's head.

Swing 69 for Sex

Probably my favourite approach to changing the regular 69 positions is this one. Both parties have far more freedom to move around, change angles, and escape the pressure of someone else lying on top of them when they use a sex swing to support body weight.

With its adaptable shape, a sex swing, in particular, can help make your 69 even more enjoyable. Shorten the sex swing straps if the head or hips of the bottom partner need to be raised, and you're done.

Additionally, height is not taken into consideration by a sex swing. The straps can be adjusted to elevate (or lower!) the bottom partner to the ideal height for the hip hinge of the standing partner.

Change It: Some lying partners may find it uncomfortable to float in midair while supported by two belts magically. Try experimenting with various sex swings if that's the case. Some sex swings have a broad, firm platform instead of the usual straps.

Try It With: Think about a vaginal vibrator (such as the Mystim Tickling Truman electronic vibrator or the Lovense Lush 3) for vulva owners or a penile ring (such as the Fun Factory NOS or Nexus Simul8) for penis owners. Your sex might feel even more remarkable if you include other feelings! Additionally, using sex toys simultaneously might make you feel like an oral sex pro when combined with your incredible sex position in a sex swing!

Position 69 Standing

Let's face it: this is just for show or when you have to have some oral sex, even when every surface around you is entirely filthy. (You may be more sexually adventurous than I am, though I'm not sure whether it has ever happened to me.)

The majority of couples will not find standing 69 to be a practical substitute for normal 69 because it is quite challenging. Even the strongest bodybuilders become exhausted from maintaining someone else's body weight and an impending climax, so the posture is likely to be short-lived, even for those who can manage it.

Just be sure to stop before you're worn out. In this situation, dropping the dangling partner can actually be lethal.

Change It By: Making use of anything that lessens the weight that the standing partner must support. This could entail leaning the suspended partner against the wall or supporting their thighs using a sex swing or hanging hammock. The suspended partner can also use their legs to help some of their weight in this position if they have access to hanging, weight-supporting bars, such as a weightlifting cage or a set of outdoor monkey bars in your yard.

Try It With: Speed is crucial if you plan to play Standing 69. As you are both already energized, try Standing 69 after pregame in a more comfortable position. To make things go more quickly, think about including your favourite sex toys.

Position for Face-Off Sex

The Face Off Sex Position eliminates lying completely by combining sitting and bending over for oral sex at the same time. Although bodyweight pressure is eliminated with this new positioning, torso height can still be critical in determining the angles necessary for oral sex.

Change It By: To create a mutual oral sex position, the standing partner must bend severely in the Face Off Sex Position. To make extra room, have your sitting partner lean back onto a sturdy object, such as a bed or wall. Less extreme bending will be needed to engage in simultaneous oral sex since the standing partner will have more room to position their feet behind the seated partner's hips. To help the standing partner rest their hands and maintain their balance, the sitting partner could also bow their knees.

Try It With: Flavored lubricant. Have you ever tried flavoured lube with your oral sex? It's not specific to this position. In addition to offering some delightful slipping and sliding possibilities, it can inject some playfulness into the exercise. Finding your favourites can be made simple with a sample kit such as the Kama Sutra Sex-To-Go Kits or the Wicked Teasers.

A Taste of Happiness

The Taste of Bliss sex position may make it simpler to obtain the angles required for simultaneous oral sex if the bottom partner is not bothered by pressure. The hips raise and facilitate easier access to the genitalia by drawing the bottom partner's knees to their shoulders. However, this balled-up position, combined with the top partner's heft on top, can compress the bottom partner quite a bit, which may not be comfortable for everyone.

The Taste of Bliss position, however, may make it simpler to obtain the proper angles if you feel that regular 69 positions aren't enough for you. To adjust where the genitals rest, the bottom partner might change the angle of their legs. In order to alter where their body rests, the top partner might simultaneously lean farther in or farther out from their companion.

Change It With: If maintaining this position seems unattainable, consider some of the available sex position aids that might be useful. Lower back pain might be lessened by placing a Liberator Jaz beneath the hips of the bottom partner. The legs of the bottom partner can be secured with a sex sling placed around their ankles, requiring less force to hold them in position. To lessen the amount of weight placed on the partner below, place a sex swing or elevated surface beneath the upper partner's knees (for example, by a stairwell!).

Hands-free sex gadgets are a good fit for this. Both of you will probably have your hands occupied, holding you in the Taste of Bliss position due to its extreme angles. Hands-free sex toys such as Dame Eva II, Hot Octopuss Jett, We-Vibe Bond, Cloud 9 Wireless Remote Panty Leaf Vibe, and We-Vibe Jive can be invaluable for adding extra sensation.