Agree to Agree: The Importance Of BDSM Slave Contracts 

A former 24/7 slave offers advice on how to create BDSM slave contracts that are as special as your partnership.

Few things are more beneficial than having everyone in a power dynamic-based relationship agree on a set of rules when it comes to handling its complexities. These guidelines are frequently outlined in BDSM slave contracts, which govern master/slave interactions.

Working out the specifics, which include everyone's expectations and their emotional and physical limitations, is the tricky part. Contractual discussions can go smoothly if you know the difference between kinky fantasies and the realities of being both an owner and an enslaved person. Misunderstandings, on the other hand, can put a stop to everything before the fun ever begins.

Let's review some BDSM slave contract fundamentals to maintain your master/mistress-slave relationship, such as how everyone can have their wishes fulfilled when to renegotiate, and why it's preferable to honor the spirit of your slave contract rather than just the letter.

What are BDSM slave contracts?

To begin with, never take fiction for reality. The dominant character in most kinky books, stories, films, pornography, and other media regulates what their property must or cannot do, generally as enslaved people at their feet. Punishments are frequently promised for even the most minor violations of their strict regulations.

In actuality, the owner and enslaved person must agree on the terms of the slave contract. It is never "my way or the highway" in a good master/mistress-slave relationship. Each person should instead state what they absolutely require, what they might be amenable to under specific circumstances, and what must never, ever occur. And for good reason.

So that you create a comprehensive slave contract that meets each person's specific demands, it is crucial to details and wants to be each of you are and wants to be before you even talk about the mechanics of your chosen relationship.

Every mistress/master-slave contract is different.

There is no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to BDSM slave contracts. For example, if the participants enjoy humiliation play, the following terms may be included in their contract:

• Until told to stop, the enslaved person must lick their feet cleanly to meet the owner.
• An enslaved person cannot talk unless someone speaks to them.
• The enslaved person will never meet the owner's gaze.
• It is essential for enslaved people always to call themselves "Dirty little piggy."

In the meantime, their slave contract may contain the following if everyone is interested in domestic service:

• Enslaved people are required always to have a neat and shaven physique.
• Enslaved people are not allowed to eat in front of their owners.
• The enslaved person will never be able to sleep until the owner's house is kept up.
• Enslaved people should always wear the maid's uniform.

Making your slave contract fit your needs, interests, and desires—not someone else's—is the key. The kinks and fetishes you and your new mistress or master enjoy sharing, as well as what you're both willing—and not willing—to perform, will determine the specifics of your contract.

What is and isn't consensual

An excellent illustration of a committed partnership gone... well, not good, is my own five-year experience working as a collared, round-the-clock enslaved person.

To start, I was not informed of my owner's requirements, which included sending her an email each night, granting her access to my money, and, most of all, prioritizing her wants over mine. How come I agreed to all of this? I regrettably admit that I failed to remember the fundamental tenet of BDSM submissiveness or slavery: that we should be in charge, not our dominants.

She made it quite apparent that our relationship would terminate if I didn't comply, so I eventually realized I never really agreed to be her slave.

Keep in mind that no one can agree to anything if they believe it is evident, either explicitly or tacitly, that they cannot refuse without running the risk of getting hurt. My assent was genuinely compelled because the prospect of a breakup prevented me from giving enthusiastic consent.

In kinky relationships, coerced consent is unfortunately not unusual.

I was later told by a kinkster buddy, "I obviously followed his instructions. He would act out or make fun of me if I didn't."

Does this imply that you and your owner or enslaved person shouldn't get together and draft a contract that works for both of you? No, of course not. Ensure that everyone can provide their permission willingly, which calls for open and sincere conversations about the relationship's power dynamics and any perceived threats that can compel consent.

Nothing's set in stone.

Following a discussion about your needs, wants, and dislikes, as well as your BDSM relationship roles and how you want your arrangement to represent them, it's time to put everything in writing and sign it. Best wishes! Your BDSM slave contract is now formally established!

That being said, "official" does not imply "forever." In the end, master-slave contracts are just a piece of paper, even though they can be extremely helpful in creating, defining, and preserving a slave/owner relationship. The human ties that bind people who respect and care for one another are always stronger. Because relationships evolve, your BDSM slave contracts should also! Always review your contract frequently, or whenever anything doesn't feel right, to ensure that it still reflects what each of you needs right now.

One final thing to never forget is that, no matter how much you both are into being a slave and a contracted owner, you are both individuals first and foremost.

One of my fellow slaves told me, "We don't always want to make it so formal, but sometimes we just want to relax." We rely on our ears to play it.

According to my friend, just being friends, lovers, or playmates is OK, putting aside your contract for a day, a week, or as long as each of you may require. Because that is the real test of any relationship, whether it is BDSM or not, the individuals involved are able to discern when it is best to follow the rules and when it is not.