A Beginner's Guide to Kink Play

Funlove.com is honoring National Kink Day on October 6 by delving deeply into kink culture and wondering which kinks are most prevalent. Are you unsure about how to begin kink exploration with a partner or alone? You've arrived at the ideal location! Use our beginner's guide to kink play to learn everything you need to know.

The Basics: What Are Sexual Kinks?

Sexual quirks were a relatively forbidden subject in the past. However, in recent years, being kinky has become a badge of pride, a sign that you have a sophisticated sexual desire and are experienced in the bedroom. A clear reminder of how commonplace kinkiness has grown is the popularity of the Facebook group "Oops, That's My Kink," which is primarily made up of humorous memes.

However, a lot of false information regarding what kinks are and are not is still out there. Unconventional sexual behaviors or desires are collectively referred to as "sexual kinks." The boundaries of heterosexual, vanilla, or "normal" sex are constantly changing due to cultural shifts. For instance, 69ing is simply another Tuesday (if you're lucky) in the twenty-first century, yet a few hundred years ago, it may have been regarded as a sexual perversion.

What Is a Fetish? Is It The Same As a Kink?

Fetish, which is sometimes used synonymously with kink, is both a subset of kink and a distinct idea in its own right. Fetishes typically refer to extremely particular conditions that a person must meet to experience orgasm or sexual pleasure. To put it simply, not all kinks are fetishes, but all fetishes are kinks.

Fetishes also frequently feature a specific item, substance, body part, personality type, or activity. They can be odd or specialized, like climacophilia (a passion for tumbling down the stairs—by the way, we don't necessarily advise practicing this one at home), or they can be prevalent, like a foot fetish.

Award-winning novelist, filmmaker, and sex educator Tristan Taormino's book The Ultimate Guide to Kink has more information about the origins of kink, kink philosophy, and kink in practice. Anyone who wants to learn more about kink or this intriguing aspect of human sexuality should read it.

How Do I Find Out What My Kinks Are?

Many people don't need to search for them; over time, some personal quirks may become painfully apparent to the individual. While some people discover their kinks later in life, others claim to have developed a fetish as early as childhood. Others use self-discovery and experimenting to find fulfilling kinks.

Even those who are receptive to kink culture may discover that kinks aren't for them. Nothing is amiss with this! Each person has their sexual inclinations and pleasures, which may or may not evolve.

Exploring Common Kinks

Reading about specific fetishes can occasionally give you enough—ahem, stimulation—to convince you that it's something you want to investigate. Therefore, let's begin with a list of typical kinks that may catch your attention.

BSDM

Bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism are all represented by BDSM. At first, it could seem a little scary, but many individuals are unaware that they have probably experimented with light BDSM at some point in the past.

In a study on sexual diversity in the US, it was discovered that 13% of people like using whips or floggers during intercourse, 22% like roleplaying, 20% like being tied up, and 30% like spanking.

Bondage and Discipline

The secret to BDSM exploration is to start small. Invest yourself some beginner-friendly bondage tape or a set of fuzzy handcuffs (a touch corny, a lot erotic) if you're attracted to the notion of being restrained (or doing the restraining). Read How to Be Knotty, a comprehensive guide on contemporary rope bondage, if you have nimble fingers and a little patience.

An all-inclusive bondage kit is always an option if you want to try a little of everything. There are kits for beginners, intermediates, and experts, so you'll undoubtedly discover the one that suits you best.

Dominance and Submission

Consider your prior experiences if you prefer the power dynamic between submission and dominance. Consider the reasons behind your preference for more submissive or passive sexual interactions. Is it your preference for dominance? Do you appreciate adopting an even more submissive role, or is there a part of you wanting to change the power dynamic? Establish expectations and boundaries with your partner, then progress to tools like whistles, paddles, collars, and ball gags.

Sadism and Masochism

How can you possibly "start small" with something as frightening-sounding as masochism and sadism, you ask? The problem is that it's not all cock and ball torture, though we do have some suggestions if that sounds like something you'd enjoy.

In actuality, masochism and sadism can be as minor as spanking, scratching, giving hickeys or bites, or pulling hair during intercourse. You can also use gadgets like electric stimulators or nipple clamps to experiment with combining pain and pleasure.

Interestingly, non-physical suffering like shame or embarrassment can also be a part of sadomasochism. Although not everyone agrees, the majority of experts think that these behaviors can be a good way for people to express their sexuality as long as they are voluntary and not forced.

Roleplaying

This kind of kink play may appeal more to people with vivid imaginations or those who like other non-sexual roleplaying activities. There are many versions, from the cliché of "the slutty nurse giving you a physical" to more...otherworldly pursuits like extraterrestrial pregnancy.

You can always add some visual stimulation to your roleplaying with bedroom costumes or beautiful kinky lingerie. The best opportunity to explore and safely act out some of your darkest fantasies with a trusted person is through roleplaying. No one said it had to be a realistic fantasy. Imagine strangers meeting in a bar, star-crossed lovers getting back together, or a gorgeous schoolgirl who doubles as a French maid and a stripper.

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