Beginners Guide to Spanking Paddles & BDSM Sex Whips

Couples who wish to experiment with additional sensory play to spice up their sex life often engage in impact play and sexual spanking. A little sexy kink goes a long way, and it’s no secret that pleasure and pain get along well.

Although these BDSM gadgets are frequently used to punish dominant and submissive sex play, sex paddles are beneficial for all couples, not just those who engage in intense fetish kink or master/slave role-playing.

Almost everyone has fantasized about having rough sex, being dominated, or receiving punishment. A simple slap on the booty during sex play can spice things up and add a whole new level of seductive enticement to the sex life; it doesn’t have to be hardcore or intense.

When a monotonous sex life becomes too routine and boring, trying a flogger whip or sex paddle might be a lifesaver for overly comfortable partnerships. We are here to provide fresh suggestions for incorporating kink into sex since it does happen. We are merely investigating bondage and BDSM activities as part of role-play or foreplay because it is known as vanilla BDSM.

How Common is Sexual Spanking?

It should come as no surprise to you to learn that BDSM sex whips and spanking paddles are frequent bondage sex toys in the collections of regular, everyday couples. People can enjoy playing with them daily because they are simple to use, affordable, and not overly bizarre.

As a sex coach for the past 20 years, I’ve advised partners to try an impact flogger whip or sex paddle. A slight tap is all it takes to add impact play and improve the sensory experience.

You might be surprised to learn how common erotic spanking is. Your accountant most likely has a lovely silicone flogger in addition to their assortment of preferred bondage tools and sex toys.

Because you’re going to expand your toolkit to include BDSM whips, spanking crops, feather ticklers, and sexual floggers, make sure to leave additional room in your dildo and vibrator collection.

Types of Spanking Toys & Tools

A few distinct kinds of spanking equipment produce different sensations. The most effective sex whips have “thuddy” or “stingy” effects. These two are the two most often used descriptive phrases to distinguish the experience.

The most popular kinds of paddles and whips for sexual spanking are as follows:

Spanking Paddle

A spanking paddle: what is it?

A spanking paddle is a single-piece, big, rectangular tool that makes a loud, single thump when used for spanking.

Beginners might wish to remember that paddles spank rather hard and allow the impact to be light or glancing (a spank from an angle, not straight-on).

Because of its vast surface area, a BDSM paddle is utilized to smack the buttocks more than any other portion of the body. A paddle is too big to use in different places and could be dangerous in various areas (don’t worry, we’ll talk about safety tips below).

Fun fact: “Paddling” is the term used to describe spanking someone with a paddle.

What are Spanking Paddles Made From?

• Leather: A popular material for spanking paddles is natural cowhide leather. Because of its excellent durability and weight, the dominant partner may honestly give the submissive a good, hard whack.
• Imitation leather: PU leather, an imitation leather polymer composed of polyurethane, a kind of plastic, is a more environmentally friendly option. Although it can be created more cheaply and doesn’t require animal ingredients, it has the same effect.
• Wood: These are some of the most exquisite BDSM toys available; they are both fashionable and artistic. Only experienced users are advised to use wood because it is powerful and gives a solid thump.

Fun fact: The interior of inexpensive BDSM paddles is frequently cardboard covered in vinyl or leather. Due to the high cost of pure leather paddles, this dramatically reduces production costs.

Flogger Whip

A flogger whip: what is it?

A whip with several tassels or strands hanging from a handle is called a flogger.

Interesting fact: “Flogger” is a general phrase derived from the word “flagellation,” which refers to flogging or whipping the human body with a tool like a whip, crop, or switch.

However, when it comes to sexual spanking, a flogger whip will have multiple tassels or strands hanging from the handle. When it strikes the body, it creates a stinging hit with a more spread pattern.

Before the abrupt swat, flogger whips can be used to tease and tickle. Gently rub the tassels over the skin to create an erotic spanking tickler effect.

Because they can be used softly without causing too much pain, flogger whips make great introductory bondage toys and are frequently included in starter BDSM kits. The tickling element is a great upsell for couples who like to be creative in the bedroom.

What are Flogger Whips Made From?

• Silicone: Due to the tassel's extreme durability, lightweight, and thinness, silicone floggers are incredibly popular. You can softly rub it over your partner’s skin to tickle them.
• Leather or synthetic leather: When whipped, these thick, flat strands will lay flat upon the body or butt with greater power and impact. When leather is utilized, it produces a noticeable “cracking” sound.
• Rope: The most vicious type of sex flogger uses long nylon ropes. A dominatrix’s favorite BDSM item for setting up their slave, these are well-liked for severe punishment.

BDSM Crop

Why do couples use BDSM whips?

The BDSM crop is comparable to a horse’s riding crop; however, human riding crops are shorter because they don’t have to travel many feet to reach the partner. Because they are more straightforward to use close together, the majority of BDSM crops are robust and only 12 inches long.

In addition to the well-known rectangular riding crop, BDSM cops are entertaining sex whips that come in a range of designs. Others are spades or hearts. The shape of the sex crop and the immediate impact can even leave a mark on your lover’s skin if you spank them hard enough, adding to the high kink factor.

What are BDSM Crops Made From?

• Leather: It’s often known that the aroma of leather stimulates the senses and gives the pair a feeling of animistic or primordial sex.
• Silicone: As the globe shifts to sustainable materials, silicone BDSM crops—which are heavy and thick—are rapidly replacing leather sex crops derived from animals.
• Feathers: The crop’s opposite end may feature a clump of feathers or a pom-pom. Since our partner will never be able to predict whether there will be pain or pleasure, this is done to alternate between impact play and sensory play.

What is a Spanking Fetish?

People who find sexual pleasure in pain are the first to appreciate spanking, making it a fetish with dual appeal and second, portraying each partner as either dominating or subservient increases sexual excitement.

According to New York City freelance writer Jillian Keenan, the fetish’s anatomical origin is that “pain causes an endorphin rush, which can be pleasurable.” Additionally, the procedure simulates sexual stimulation by causing blood to rush to the pelvic area.

Control and punishment fantasies are popular sexual fantasies. The individual may be the recipient or bottom (the submissive position) or the top or provider (the dominant role). Some couples alternate roles, which means that each partner chooses one of the roles for a given session. They might take on different duties the next time.

Couples who indulge in this kind of sexual fantasy share a strong emotional bond. For this reason, spanking toys rank among the top BDSM toys for novices. The physical experience of receiving a paddle spanking during intercourse is only one part of it.

Comparing Sex Paddles & Flogger Whips

As we now know, a paddle and a flogger are two distinct kinds of BDSM equipment. Of course, in a perfect world, we would have a cabinet-sized BDSM play box filled with a variety of bondage tools and equipment, but in practice, financial constraints frequently place restrictions on us.

Which one should we pick if we can only choose one?

The paddle spanks with a sudden thump; the flogger spanks with a splayed sting.

Consider a paddle as having a single, wide impact area, similar to a boat paddle. Since the tassels detach as the flogger is whipped, its many strands spread out and create a stinging sensation, although they are in the same area as a paddle.

Flogging is more adaptable because it can begin with the whip strands being teased and tickled.

Paddling is usually used as a form of punishment for sub/dom role-play and is more of a dominant spectacle.

Best Paddles for Spanking

Since our selection of bondage toys and equipment is “vanilla,” meaning neither extreme nor frightening, curious beginners will love it. These are inexpensive since the finest spanking paddles for novices shouldn’t be pricey, particularly if you’re not even sure you’ll pursue this further.

Sportsheets Loop Spanking Paddle

In contrast to a traditional spanking paddle, which is made of just one piece of material, the Sportsheets Loop Spanking Paddle is a dual layer loop style sex paddle, meaning that a folded piece of artificial leather connects at the handle. When your lover is paddled, the folded loop collapses with a loud crack. In addition to improving sound quality, this design reduces weight compared to a conventional BDSM paddle, allowing novices to experience the same loud cracking sound with less force.

Key Features:

• Even if not struck forcefully, loop style produces a loud cracking sound.
• Vegan leather has the same texture and appearance as genuine leather.
• The hue, deep crimson, has an elegant and solemn appearance.
• It may be hung up like a work of art using the wrist strap.

Specifications:

Length overall: 17 inches

Material: nylon wristband, PU leather paddle

Sportsheets Square Spanking Paddle

The Sportsheets Square Spanking Paddle is a short, wide paddle that works well for close-quarters use. Because of its small length, beginners will find it relatively easy to use while playing on the bed. With minimal recoil, you can swat your beloved right after that, bending them over your knee! In addition to offering a comfortable grip, the finger grooves around the handle add visual cues that improve the entire appearance of this expensive yet reasonably priced bondage gear attachment.

Key Features:

• At close range, the short and wide design is simple to use.
• It is simple to grab finger grooves.
• The hue, deep crimson, has an elegant and solemn appearance.
• It may be hung up like a work of art using the wrist strap.

Specifications:

Length in total: 12 1/2 inches

4 3/4-inch in diameter

Material: nylon wristband, PU leather paddle

Bitch Wooden BDSM Paddle

The Sportsheets Square Spanking Paddle is constructed of wood, and the word “bitch" is etched throughout, allowing you to look through and see the opposite side. Every paddle is a unique work of art since it is handcrafted and lacquered. Nicely contoured and splinter-free are beveled edges. To comply, your sweetheart only needs to be spanked with a stiff paddle from a wood paddle!

Key Features:

• Every paddle is crafted by hand from wood.
• Engraved throughout the wood is the word “bitch.”
• Wood paddles won’t bend or crease throughout their lives.
• It may be hung up like a work of art using the wrist strap.

Specifications:

Length in total: 12 1/2 inches

Material: nylon wristband, wood paddle

Heart Leather Spanking Paddle

A classic BDSM accessory, the Heart Leather Spanking Paddle is crafted from genuine cowhide leather and has hearts stitched into the top layer to symbolize forbidden love. Furthermore, if you paddle the 3D layer hard enough, it might leave the impression of hearts on your lover’s buttocks. Leather seems to have that extra loud crack when administering punishment, and the large rectangular shape makes a powerful slapping sound.

Key Features:

• They are composed of genuine cowhide leather.
• Ideal for erotic Gift suggestions for Valentine's Day
• The buttocks may bear heart-shaped inlay patterns.
• Our best-quality, expert BDSM paddle

Specifications:

Length in total: 12 inches

Cowhide leather paddle with nylon wristband

How to Use a BDSM Paddle

• Here are some Sexpert pointers on how to maximize the fun of impact play and BDSM paddling, taken directly from my BDSM beginner’s guide:
• Begin with a gentle spanking. This warms the person up for what’s to come, much like clit stimulation does before penetrative intercourse.
• Alternate your positions. Because it poses the least risk, the most popular spanking sex position is the standard “bending over the knee.” There is little risk of damage from hitting the wrong spot because the fleshy buttocks are visible.
• Put on your role-playing attire. One approach to enjoy sexual paddling is to use role-playing to act out a sexual desire. It improves your plot and provides a valid reason to spank (e.g., your pupil misbehaved and needs discipline).
• Try out several strokes—a light touch across the skin, a straight-down blow with a sideways glance. Switch things up so your partner won’t know what to anticipate next. It is pretty sexy and stimulating to anticipate.

Pro Tip: If you hit abruptly and then raise the paddle, it will feel more like a brief “smack” and cause more stinging. If you strike and leave the tool in place, it will feel more like a “thud,” and the feeling will last until you remove it.

Paddling Risks, Consent & Safewords

Here are some crucial safety tips to consider before you start pursuing your sexual paddling obsession for the first time to ensure that it is done safely:

• Always use the flat portion of the paddle and avoid striking the joints, face, back, or diaphragm area (the front of the body beneath the rib cage). Never use the edges to attack.
• If S&M sex play becomes too violent, decide on a safe phrase beforehand.

Safewords must be decided upon in advance. It is a valuable tool for determining when the recipient is experiencing real suffering and when BDSM activity is getting out of control. Pineapple is the most popular and well-known safeword, but you and your partner can create your own.

Before BDSM, consent must be established. In your role-play scenario, both parties should decide who is dominating and who is submissive. They should also sketch down the events that will take place.