The Best Sex Positions for Rough Sex

Not every sex position is safe or effective for rough sex.

Rough sex has a passionate, primal quality that ignites our arousal. The groaning, deep thrusting, and scratching combine to create a concoction of pleasure.

It has all the "gotta have it now!" emotions that may turn sexual tension into a sexual inferno, mainly if you've been teased and denied a lot before your violent sex session.

You might think that "how to have rough sex" would mean making your favorite sex positions rougher, but you'd be mistaken. Not all sex positions translate well to rough sex because of the intensity and tempo, and some positions can even be dangerous.

So I'm here to help! Think of me as your Dirty, Rough Sex Director, and I'm happy you're with me.

The Dangers of Rough Sex

I want to take a moment to talk about safety issues before we get into the rough sex positions.

Please read about how these couples fared in bed, and here is some advice for playing it safe. Sex is perilous enough, but when you add even more roughness, the danger increases even more.

Have a Conversation About Boundaries

For the majority of couples, going farther than they had planned to is their main worry. If you're in that primal, frantic state, rough sex and its ever-increasing intensity might quickly push you over your usual bounds.

In order to help avoid this, talk about your boundaries before sex. I always advise a thorough negotiation before a kink scene, but you can make this as light or as detailed as you'd like. For example, "I'm not looking to be scratched tonight" or "I might need to stop us if I find myself wanting to be choked. I know that's a bad space for me."

It's also possible to let your partner know that you'd like to take a brief pause during sex to check in with each other. Although you may feel that this will ruin the "vibe," most people can resume rough sex reasonably quickly after an interruption, so letting your partner know in advance can help them prepare for it. After all, nobody enjoys being taken by surprise during sex.

Take Care When Playing With a Penis

The dangers of rough sex are not limited to this. Were you aware that the penis could be broken? That's your new factoid for today, then. The soft tissue that makes up the penis is brittle, and it can break easily! To achieve this, place the penis in an awkward position, such as against your inner thigh, and press down with your full weight.

The Cowgirl sex position seems a little like harsh sex.

Avoid any sexual position where the penis will completely exit the entrance; instead, leave the tip in place to help "guide" the subsequent push.

Selecting sex positions in which the penetrating partner performs the movement can also be beneficial. Additionally, you can stay away from sex positions like Cowgirl or Missionary, where one person's entire body weight rests on top of the other, and instead choose positions like Dog Style or Double Mount Penetration, where both of you support the majority of your weight.

Watch for Falls

Additionally, you should be on the lookout for falls or sprains. It can be considerably simpler to go past your typical stopping point when engaging in rough sex, particularly if you select a position that challenges your strength, flexibility, or balance. Many postures can test your flexibility, strength, and balance, after all.

Occasionally, I advise spending a few mental seconds to check in with your complete body, not just the areas between your legs. In order to prevent damage in the first place, you may also want to fall back on comfortable positions that don't strain your body. You don't need to make it fancy; you may have a lot of rough sex fun just doing it the doggy way!

Avoid Bruises (Unless You're Into That!)

Here, pelvic bruises (whether from vaginal or anal intercourse) can also occur. An OhNut or other penetration buffer can help lessen some of that bruising. However, if you love thrusting quickly and forcefully, your bodies will probably collide with enough force to cause some internal and external bruises. Keep this in mind, and if something seems a little bruised, be sure to let the other player know mid-play to shift the angles or lessen the intensity.

The Sex Positions That Are Best for Rough Sex

Now that you're prepared to search for any physical or psychological risks during intercourse let's dive straight into the top sex positions for hard sex.

Desk Domination Sex Position

I believe this to be the most popular sex position for intense, gritty workplace sex in films, and it's effective! The standing partner can press horizontally against their partner for even more skin-to-skin contact while still maintaining that "gotta have it now" feeling in the Desk Domination position. This position, which has the receiver's legs wrapped around the giver's waist, also lessens the possibility of full strokes, which lowers the possibility of the penis inadvertently landing in the wrong spot.

Good to Know: Verify the stability of your workstation or table. Actually. The desk will be pushed sideways by rough sex in the Desk Domination position. It can quickly move your table if it isn't sturdy enough to hold this. One of the desk's legs may even give way as a result, putting you both in danger of falling to the ground. Your table is probably not solid enough for this position if it doesn't take two persons to shift it.

Try It With: A ring of cocks. A vibrating cock ring can be an excellent fit for the Desk Domination position because of its close quarters and leaned-in angle. Selecting one with a protruding vibe, such as the Nexus Force Lasso Vibrating Ring or Fun Factory NOS, can really help guarantee that any partners who own clitoris experience the full impact of the vibrations.

The Slippery Nipple Sex Position

The Slippery Nipple position is unlikely to give you much movement, but that's okay! Part of the reason this is such a safe option for rough sex is that you can't pull all the way in and then back out. Instead, concentrate on how much fun it is to be able to touch each other with both hands-free. For nipple play or just groping the chest or thighs during intense love, this can be a fantastic choice.

Good to Know: A biological penis in this posture may be angled downward or horizontally. Before deciding that this is the most excellent sex position for rough sex, try a few different positions because some people may find this uncomfortable, especially if your partner's body is "trapping" their penis there.

Try It With: Play with your breasts! Playing with the chest is made easy in this position, as the name suggests. Nipple clamps or nipple suckers may be a great way to add sensation, even if nipplegasms aren't your ultimate goal. (The fact that air suction vibrators can also be used on the nipples is well known. However, it may be difficult to maintain a good seal when physical sex is taking place a few feet away.)

Good Doggie Sex Position

Rough sex can be very effective when performed while seated. In addition to improving their accessibility for your body, it also enhances their accessibility for your location. Finding the area (and cleanliness!) to go on the floor can be challenging if you want to have a passionate romp in a public setting. The Good Doggie position, on the other hand, makes use of any seated surface for your rough sex.

Good to Know: Remember how we discussed the possibility of penis fractures? Ensure that the riding partner does not wholly pull out between strokes while in this position. The simplest method to prevent that is to concentrate on maintaining continuous contact between the back of the butt cheeks and the partner's stomach. While lowering the risk of penile fracture, grinding and "lapdance" motions can be just as enjoyable as full thrusts.

Try It With: Whatever your preferred sex toy is! Because it frees up both partners' hands to give more pleasure, the Good Doggie position is excellent. For further stability when playing, you can also lean forward onto a table or other surface with those hands, as shown in the picture. It all comes down to what suits you the best!

The Pole Sex Position

The Pole Position is set to become a popular rough sex position if the receiving partner is a fan of clitoral or penile stimulation. Because it is more difficult to obtain upright leverage, this position not only lessens some of the hazards associated with "Person on Top" positions but also gives the receiver a thigh to grind against when the partner is reclined. Both lovers may find great pleasure in this!

Just be careful not to rush that first penetration! Since most couples find this to be a problematic and unfamiliar penetration angle, you should make sure you both feel at ease with it before getting started.

Good to Know: Lube on your thigh is probably something you've never considered, but it might be helpful in this situation! A lubricant sprayed on the bent thigh of the reclined partner might create a slick, slide-against-it surface for the receiving spouse to press against, particularly if that partner has a penis.

Try It With: Some bondage. If sensation play and restraint are your thing, this position is perfect for them! It is simple to spread the penetrating partner across a bed and bind them without causing significant movement. Wearing a blindfold allows the receiving spouse to concentrate on the feelings and skin-to-skin contact. How you want to experience everything is up to you!

Grand Slam Sex Position

This position is ideal for rough sex, as the name suggests. The receiving partner is already in a vulnerable, "take me now" position while they are lying face down. When hard sex is added, the heat of their primordial bond is felt by both parties. Additionally, this sex position can be performed anywhere!

Good to Know: If the recipient has prominent hip bones or a penis, place pillows underneath them and do this position on a soft surface. The penetrating partner can genuinely ride the receiving partner in this position by using some of their strongest muscles. This one can be unpleasant on hard surfaces because the penetrating partner is practically resting the majority of their weight on the receiver's hips.

Try It With: Adding more clitoral or penile stimulation with your hands can be challenging when the receiver's stomach is so firmly pressed to the floor. This is where hands-free sex toys come in handy! A few options that are suitable for grinding include the Rocks-Off Ruby Glow, Orion VibePad 2, and Wild Flower Enby 2. Alternatively, you can choose a hands-free option like the Lovense Ferri, Hot Octopuss Jett, or We-Vibe Bond.

Lion's Roar Sex Position

It may surprise you to learn that introducing primitive, harsh sensations to sex can be significantly enhanced by the use of a sex position strap. Gaining leverage during doggie-style sex for the Lion's Roar Position is made simple in this instance by the Sportsheets I Like It Doggie Style strap.

Full thrusts, in which the penis slides out, are less usual in this position, which makes it ideal for lowering the risk of penile danger because most couples will like the passionate sense of skin pressed firmly against their partner.

Good to Know: There are several sizes of bodies! The I Like It Doggie Style strap's Plus version provides greater width and material for comfort if the receiving spouse has a more significant body.

Try It With: If necessary, use penis limiters. There is an abundance of intense, deep thrusting available in the Lion's Roar posture. However, this can be a recipe for "bottoming out" agony for certain people. Make sure the receiving partner is completely turned on before beginning, and think about including a penetration buffer, such as the OhNut or Vibrating OhNut, to allow both parties to ease into the position without worrying about pain.

Leapfrog Sex Position

You're going to enjoy the Leapfrog position if deep penetration is on your "must have" list. It puts the receiving partner in a hips-up posture that promotes hitting some of the innermost regions in addition to encouraging rough sex.

Good to Know: Not every receiving partner will be in the Leapfrog position. In essence, the recipient is performing a "light" variation of the Frog pose in yoga, which is a reasonably strenuous stretch! Turn the Leapfrog into a Dog-style variation to lessen the stretch, particularly if your muscles start to feel a little sore halfway through.

Try It With: Furniture for sex or pillows. When the receiver has something to rest their hips on, it can be much easier to relax into their posture. This is where the Liberator Jaz or Edge can help! Place it beneath the receiver's hips to provide a cushioned, supportive surface that will lessen knee strain and facilitate positional relaxation.

Over the Edge Position

There is nothing that indicates "rough sex," like flinging someone over a couch arm and having sex. The Over the Edge position offers precisely that. In this posture, the receiver's hips are propped at an excellent angle for penetration using your favorite (sturdy!) couch. Just make sure the penetrating partner increases the intensity gradually at first. One of the danger factors for a penile fracture, if you are not accustomed to having sex over the arm of your sofa, is thrusting with the penetrating partner's entire body weight behind it.

Good to Know: For this particular sex position, a waterproof sex cover is practically a need. It can be a fantastic idea to slide a Liberator Throw underneath your body before jumping in unless you want to clean bodily fluids off your couch. For most couches, the "Travel" size should fit perfectly!

Try It With: Some impact play! The "excuse" to try a little spanking may be found in the Over the Edge position, which frees up the penetrating partner's hands. If you want, you can use impact play toys or just your hands. Just remember to get permission first! The term "rough sex" does not always refer to spanking.

Lady Godiva Sex Position

There are other ways to have rough sex besides sexual contact. Oral sex may actually be pleasantly "rough," as well! All of the advantages of facesitting are available to the receiving partner in the Lady Godiva position, including the opportunity to regulate the precise location, speed, and roughness of the stimulation.

Just remember to figure out a way to communicate with air! The receiving partner may find it easy to become a little too crazy with forceful oral sex in the Lady Godiva position, while the giving partner may find it challenging to communicate. The seated partner can be reminded to get up for a moment so the provider can breathe by giving them a customary "double tap" on the thighs.

Good to Know: The giver's head may be subjected to a great deal of pressure from Lady Godiva. To lessen neck strain, make sure their head is entirely supported (by the pillow, bed, or other object).

Try It With: One of the queening chairs. Although the Lady Godiva position can be pretty fun, it puts a lot of strain on the providing partner's breathing and body. The queening chair can allow you to enjoy the same position but with a surface that supports the receiver for safety and comfort.

Head Rest Sex Position

For those who own a penis, the Head Rest position provides a harsh sex alternative; however, some vulva owners might also find this position enjoyable.

Compared to the Deep Throat position, there is less chance of damaging the providing partner's mouth or throat (or slamming into their teeth!) because the receiving partner's range of motion is limited when they are reclining. However, by thrusting their hips forward for a posture that can feel quite primal, the giving partner can regulate the roughness and velocity.

Good to Know: I suggest this sex position for a softer, plushier surface when you are both lying on your sides. Your hips will be grateful!

Try It With: Your preferred big sex toys! For those big, strong toys that typically don't fit between your bodies during intercourse, the headrest position can be a fantastic fit because it gives enough space to gratify the providing partner. With their large handles, wand massagers (like the Smart Wand 2 or Magic Wand Mini) and penis strokers (like the KIIROO KEON or Arcwave Ion) can both be excellent fits.

Bonus: Synchronous Friction Sex Position

Who says penetration must be a part of your hard sex? In fact, if you take penetration out of the picture, it may really be much more approachable for couples.

It turns out that it can be quite taxing to throw all of your heart, soul, and cardiovascular limitations into slamming into your partner.

Selecting a mutual masturbation position, such as the Synchronous Friction position, instead lets you both concentrate on making forceful, deliberate motions between your thighs, where they are most important, without having to worry about moving your entire body. As a result, you may have lengthy, rough sex sessions that will leave you feeling pleasantly sore the following day. Your cardiovascular system will be tested so that you won't be out of breath. This position also allows you to converse about anything you want.

Good to Know: This one obviously requires a soft surface, such as a bed; if you both want to turn over quickly for no-wet-spot sleep once you're done, consider adding a waterproof sex blanket.

Try It With: The anal toys that you love. Accessing the butt is made simple by the Synchronous Friction position. Because the bed is so near to the butt, it might be difficult to push an anal toy in and out, but it's simple to insert butt plugs or anal beads and gently wiggle them while they're within. In rough sex, it can be a terrific method to increase the intensity!