Erotic spanking: How to properly spank your partner?
I'll be providing an in-depth analysis of erotic spanking, one of my favorite subjects, today.
I'm thrilled to be able to talk about sexual spanking with you in all its splendor, and I enjoy nothing more than to be hunched over a bench with my cheeks flushed and my knickers roughly yanked down.
I'll go over the definition of sexual spanking, its components, how to discuss it with your partner, and how to really perform it.
I'll also discuss the many impact play tools you can use, such as canes, whips, crops, floggers, spanking paddles, and even your hand. You're going to have a blast, so get ready.
What is erotic spanking?
One type of impact play is erotic spanking, in which a person spanks another for sex.
Spanking can be used to improve a D/s (Dominant/submissive) dynamic, or it can be done for fun as part of play.
Erotic spanking is still possible if you're not too kinky or into BDSM. It's a fantastic way to add some naughtiness to plain enjoyment and spice up foreplay.
Why, therefore, do people enjoy getting smacked, thwacked, and slapped? Your body releases endorphins when you are spanked, which results in a euphoric reaction.
As a result, the recipient is happy and less anxious. You're in for a treat if you're giving your spouse a spanking because it's a terrific way to unwind, especially if you like to dominate them.
How to talk about erotic spanking with your partner
You should be able to discuss your kinky desires with your partner in an open manner if you have previously brought up the topic of BDSM or already played in that manner.
On the other hand, you might be feeling more anxious if you're a nervous novice.
Hold off on talking adequately until you have the time and space to do so. You can talk about expectations and wants if your partner is amenable to the notion of trying erotic spanking.
Discuss the location and timing of your erotic spanking attempt.
Now is the moment to discuss limits and determine appropriate words and cues to ensure that play is enjoyable and safe.
Impact play benefits greatly from a traffic light system, where "green" denotes "go for it," "amber" denotes "let's slow down a little," and "red" denotes "stop."
Throughout the play, check in with your partner frequently, and if this is your first time, resist the want to go all out.
How to spank your partner?
Both of you are eager to attempt sensual spanking after talking about it with your partner, but you need to do your research before you pick up a paddle and start beating up.
Some parts of the body, especially those with a lot of muscle and fat, like the upper thighs and butt cheeks, are hot zones.
Never spank the hips, spine, or other parts of the body that house essential organs because this could cause severe harm.
The plump lower portion of the cheeks should get the majority of your slaps when you spank the buttocks.
Although the receiver will find this more unpleasant, if you are both novice, don't go in too hard. The upper thighs, especially the area where the butt joins the thighs, can also receive some spanking.
Take care and be gentle when spanking the lower thighs because they are often sensitive.
The key to a tremendous erotic spanking session is to warm up first.
Light hand slaps will cover the entire area (thighs and buttocks), warm up the butte pleasantly, and gradually increase the intensity.
Evenly distribute the strokes and ask your spouse if they would like more (here is where the traffic light method is applicable).
Erotic spanking scenarios and methods
You can try a variety of spanking scenarios during roleplaying or as part of a standard D/s dynamic.
Impact play can also be improved by including tools, clothes, and props.
The traditional OTK is one of the best sexy spanking techniques.
For a hand spanking, pull your spouse over your knee. By talking foul, taking off clothes (a bare-bottom spanking may be extremely erotic), and giving a heavier spanking, you can intensify the situation.
If you don't want to do OTK, you can bend your spouse over a chair, table, or bed.
As an alternative, have them touch their toes, lie on their front, stand upright facing a wall, or place their hands on their head.
Once you start spanking, you may wish to purchase specialized equipment like a St. Andrew's Cross or spanking bench, which allows you to secure your partner with restraints to keep them in place.
Make the sexy spanking experience more intense by utilizing props and costumes. If you intend to participate in roleplaying, dress the part or change your regular clothes for seductive underwear to build the mood.
A teacher/student, police officer/convict, boss/employee, or doctor/patient scenario may be tried.
Additionally, spanking is effective when combined with bondage and other BDSM techniques.
Handcuffs, bondage rope, bondage tape, and spreader bars are some ways to limit your partner's movements, which can enhance the fun.
Adding a blindfold for sensory deprivation will make your significant other go crazy.
Impact play toys
There are several options available to you when it comes to impact play toys.
Your initial option should be hand spanking, but don't be scared to explore other methods once you've mastered it.
Some sting, while others give a thuds impact. Let's examine a few:
Spanking paddles
Spawning paddles can be made of metal, wood, rubber, silicone, or other materials. They are typically flat, have a large surface area, and have a handle. A variety of colors and patterns are available, such as fuzzy paddles, paddles with phrases imprinted on them, and textured paddles.
Floggers
Floggers consist of a handle to which several strands, also referred to as tails, are joined. Suit, leather, rubber, PVC, vinyl, and chainmail are among the materials used to make the spanking instruments, which come in a range of sizes and lengths.
Whips
Whips are better suited for more experienced players and are not for the weak of heart. The whip will be ideal if you want a sharp bite with a sting in the tail. Prior to hitting your spouse, practice hitting a pillow because you'll need a steady hand and good aim. Before you begin playing, it's worthwhile to view a tutorial video or go to a whip workshop.
Crops and canes
Canes and crops can both be enjoyable, but again, they are best suited for people who have had some spanking experience. Typically, riding crops have a narrower shaft and a thick handle. There is a keeper at the tip that stings the recipient. Canes are constructed of acrylic or bamboo wood and are slender and flexible. They can be used for forceful strikes that leave striking stripes on exposed flesh or for tapping the skin.
DIY toys
You can utilize a variety of items you can find around your home instead of purchasing pricey spanking equipment. For a do-it-yourself slap, try a belt, a wooden spoon, a toothbrush, or a slipper.
Ready, steady, spank
Prioritize consent and safety to ensure that erotic spanking sessions are successful.
In summary, before any play, go over ideas, get consent, lay out expectations, establish boundaries, choose safe phrases and cues, and complete your assignment.
After sexual spanking and sexy pleasure, remember to schedule a cuddle—check in during play.
Cheers to everyone getting smacked on the butt and having a great time getting spanked.
