Everything you need to know about sensation play
What is sensation play?
Friends of Fishermen: What comes to mind when you think of this? It's probably not making the breath fresher. For a few years, this was the buzzword. Why? Before coming in to see a sweetheart, lustful individuals pass past the servos. It could be quite the experience to go down on someone with a little minty breath.
Most likely, we have moved on from our friendship with the fisherman—or have we? However, sensation play continues to take center stage. Let's explore the fantastic realm of sensation play (fresh mints again?)!
The practice of engaging the senses—taste, smell, sound, touch, and sight—in diverse ways to intensify or try out various forms of pleasure is known as sensation play. It is a (very) transcendent experience since our senses can arouse memories, fantasies, and sensuality. It's an inventive method of staying totally present with your lover or partners and de-emphasizes penetrative sex and orgasm, emphasizing pleasure as the primary goal.
How to get started with sensation play
You want to know more about sensation play. Talk about it with your partner or partners outside of the bedroom if you plan to try it. This gives them the opportunity to think about the possibility of sensation play without feeling rushed to answer yes.
"I was wondering how you feel about trying it with me?" is one way you and your partner could approach the subject. "I've been curious about exploring sensation play together."
For instance, "I'm comfortable with temperature play, but I'd like to be able to see what's happening the entire time," or "I'd like to experiment with touch but don't feel comfortable inflicting pain." Provide a space for your partner to express their ideas and discuss their boundaries in advance. To lessen the chance of something going wrong, make sure you promote an open channel of communication before, during, and after.
As a sexologist, I advise using the traffic light system, where red indicates stopping, orange indicates approaching your threshold, and green indicates continuing. For you and your spouse to have a secure, cozy, and most importantly, enjoyable time together, this is a useful tool for expressing your limits in the moment.
Unfortunately, it's not for the 15-minute quickies throughout the workday. Sensation play is not something that can be hurried. You will want to treat yourself, I promise. Plan a date night or day and create tension before the game begins.
What will you be wearing?
Which music selection will you play?
How will you create the atmosphere?
Which props are required?
Even before you take off your clothing, this is a fantastic method to rekindle your desire and establish a deeper connection with your spouse (it's also quite exciting).
We are aware that sensation play entails arousing one or more of the senses listed below.
- Smell
- Taste
- Sound
- Sight
- Touch
However, how can we stimulate? Could you give me more details? Here's some motivation to get your creative juices going, darling.
Touch
Budget friendly
Nails: Gently tease or rub your partner's skin with your nails or the tips of your fingers (for those who chew their nails). Pay attention to the erogenous areas, such as the inner thighs, neck, and breasts. A simple head massage is a fantastic way to start foreplay, and it feels great.
There are two methods to accomplish this: either hold the ice cube in your mouth with your teeth and run it along their body, or use your hands to glide it down their body while focusing your mouth on other parts of their body (speak nasty in their ear, kiss their lips gently, etc.). To create tension, I would suggest beginning at their neck or ankles and working your way up to their genitalia.
Treat yo self
Candles: Try wax or massage oil candles (be sure they're healthy for your body). Drizzle your partner's body with the heated oil or wax. This kind of play ventures into the domain of eroticism—did someone mention flames of passion?—through the experience of pain. When paired with sensory deprivation techniques like wearing a blindfold, this is an excellent one.
Floggers and paddles: add some impact play and a little BDSM. Tow the line between pleasure and agony and hit your lover on the chest, back, thighs, or butt.
The Wartenberg wheel is a highly acclaimed toy for sensation play. You can roll this pinwheel, which has spikes, along your body. Vary the pressure. From giving your spouse pain (in a reasonable manner) to keeping it mild, almost like a tickle, you can do it all.
While they may not be to everyone's taste, breast clamps might be for you. Playing with a breast clamp feels good just sitting there, but you can also pull on and move them to try different pressures and sensations.
Smell
Before play, set the mood by spritzing the air with a noteworthy fragrance. When the other character is blindfolded, you could even include it as a slight surprise in the performance. Warm.
Sound
I will be transported back to that moment if music is playing during mid-sex and I hear it again. Have you experienced this? Try these:
Try listening to a sexy narrative with your significant other. Many free pornographic podcasts are available. Search for sexy tales on Spotify and select your favorite.
To set the mood, make your sexy soundtrack or locate one that is hot and spicy.
ASMR: If you enjoy auditory stimulation, you should listen to some ASMR music by yourself or with a companion. Consider sounds such as sex sounds (drool), kissing, whispered voices, sheets on the skin, and heavy breathing. Bring on the flutters and shivers in your stomach (or elsewhere!). An excellent source of sexual AMSR clips is Audio Desires.
Taste
One underutilized sensory method is deliberately experimenting with flavor. Get in touch with your inner Samantha Jones from Sex in the City, who prepares to surprise her partner by laying sushi across her body before he gets home. Use decadent delicacies to adorn your body or your partner's, such as chocolate and strawberries. Sushi? Sweetheart? (Whipped cream?) You can make it as messy as you like. After that, they feed or consume each other's bodies.
Sight
Covering your partner's or yours, for example, "Where (where will they touch next?"), "can create a tremendous sense of suspense.
Budget friendly
Put on a scarf or shirt tie from your closet.
Treat yo self
If you want to feel upscale, you may get a silky blindfold—did someone mention luxury?
