How to Use Sex Toys: Complete Tutorial for Beginners

The use of sex toys to enhance sexual pleasure and make orgasms feel more powerful and pleasurable is widespread. Foreplay, partnered sex, and solo masturbation are all facilitated by sex toys. When you use adult toys correctly, you’ll get the most out of them, and today, you’ll find out exactly how!

At first glance, the answer to the question of how to use sex toys seems obvious. However, it’s pretty standard to wonder if there is a specific guide to follow that would make your experience more enjoyable after buying sex toys online and using them for the first time. The answer is yes!

I’m here to provide you with a wealth of Sexpert hints, methods, and recommendations on how to use sex toys for the most satisfying experience. You’ll find dildo tutorials, vibrator demonstrations, and thorough and detailed instructions for anal toys.

Why Use Sex Toys?

Sex toys give you power. After an orgasm, you get this incredible rush of pure pleasure. When you play with sex toys, you have complete control over your enjoyment.

The same pleasure also benefits everyone. The pleasures of sex toys are shared by men, women, and couples in all erogenous zones of the body, both externally and internally. There is a dildo for sale with your name on it, regardless of your gender or sexual orientation!

To explore sexual fantasies and reignite passion in a committed relationship or marriage, couples use sex toys. Reviving your sexual life is a terrific way to establish a closer, more personal connection. For good reason, we refer to it as “spicing up the sex life”—that’s precisely how it feels!

Since some of these go into great detail and offer multiple approaches to try, each topic has a link to the corresponding sex toy tutorial. For step-by-step instructions and video demonstrations, consult the adult toy guides for each category.

Sex Toy Demonstration Videos

For consumers making their first online purchase at an adult toy store, sex toy videos are a valuable resource. We provide a video demo for each of our sex toys so you can see how firm or soft they are, see how their vibrating modes and functions work, and get a sense of their actual size.

You can get a sense of how a sex toy functions and feels by watching demonstrations. For partners who wish to engage in foreplay with vibrators or dildos, it is a necessary tool. To let you know what to expect and how to use each one properly, I always include a sex toy demo in my tutorials.

How to Use a Dildo

How is a dildo used? A rhythmic motion that mimics sexual contact is the key to having fun with a dildo. As sexual arousal and orgasm get closer, start slowly, apply a lot of lube, and accelerate your motion.

Before inserting the dildo head, spread the labia apart and lubricate the vagina. It’s crucial to apply the lubricant gradually, even with a tiny beginner’s dildo, to avoid your skin pulling from friction and to spread the lubricant evenly throughout your body.

Are you looking for Sexpert tips on how to get the most out of a sex toy? To increase pleasure, simultaneously “jiggle” the dildo and activate the clitoris. For an internal orgasm, tilt the shaft in the direction of the belly button to activate the G-spot.

Pro tip: Get a suction cup dildo; it’s much simpler to use when playing alone and has a handle built into the base. Sticking to a floor and letting your kinkiest sexual fantasies run wild is also enjoyable!

Dildo Instructions

Lubricate the area surrounding your vaginal entrance and the dildo.
Using your fingers, spread your labia open.
To eliminate friction, insert the dildo and move it back and forth to distribute the lube.
While using the dildo, use your finger or a bullet vibrator to activate your clitoris.
Use a rhythmic motion to move the dildo faster and faster as your sexual arousal rises.
Tilt the dildo forward for G-spot stimulation and rub your clit more vigorously as the orgasm draws near.

How to Use a Vibrator

How is a vibrator used? To lessen friction during initial insertion, lubricate the top two or three inches of the vibrator and your vagina. Lube is not necessary for external vibrators such as clit stimulators and bullet vibes, and they work best when used dry.

Examine your vibrator’s different vibrating modes. You can time the crest of your climax with the intensity of the settings by using the thumping, escalating, and pulsating modes found in the majority of contemporary sex toys for women.

The pinnacle of individual pleasure is the vibrator sex toy. A fantastic orgasm is the result of both internal and clit stimulation. Relax and allow your thoughts to drift into your favorite erotic fantasy. There are no rules; you and your beautiful vibrator are the only ones on cloud nine.

Once fully inserted, move your vibrator in a “stirring” motion. This increases the vaginal pressure and intensifies the sensation of massage that makes climaxes feel so amazing. For this reason, vibrators are sometimes called “personal massagers.”

Pro tip: You can use vaginal vibrators as clitoral vibrators as well. Apply pressure, prod, and massage your clit using the vibrator’s tip. For perianal stimulation, place it between your butt cheeks and gently massage it between your labia. Experience pleasures that vibrate through all of your erogenous zones.

Vibrator Instructions

Lubricate your vaginal entrance and the vibrator.
Using your fingers, spread your labia open.
To eliminate friction, insert the vibrator and move it back and forth to distribute lube.
Choose the lowest speed setting after turning on the motor.
Increase speed or select a more intense vibrating mode as your sexual arousal rises.
Use your fingers to massage your clit if your vibrator lacks a clitoral stimulator.

How to Use a Rabbit Vibrator

How Can a Rabbit Vibrator Be Used? You can try a variety of techniques with this sophisticated female sex toy. I’ve listed five ways to use a rabbit vibrator in this guide and video demonstrations for each. An essential read for all interested novices!

In conclusion, a blended orgasm is produced when external and internal stimulation are combined. The rabbit sex toy is so popular because it is the most enjoyable kind of orgasm and a sought-after experience for sex toy users worldwide.

The rabbit ears can be spread out and positioned one on each side to “hug” the clit, or they can be laid directly over it to “tickle.” Both are sexually pleasing in their own right, but they feel very different.

Expert advice: Before turning on the motor or motors, position the rabbit ears where you want them and insert the vibrator. When the rotating or gyrating head is moving, most women find it challenging to insert it vaginally.

Rabbit Vibrator Instructions

Do not lubricate the external bunny vibrator; instead, lubricate the dildo shaft.
Put the bunny ears in one of the previously mentioned positions after inserting the vibrator.
Turn on the motor or motors to the speed you want.
Could you not move it? This sex toy must be left in place to be used properly.
As your orgasm starts, turn up the intensity by varying the vibration modes.

How to Use a Bullet Vibrator

How Is a Bullet Vibrator Operated? Several techniques feel fantastic, like spreading the labia and placing it over the vaginal entrance (what an incredible tease!) and raising the clitoral hood and pushing the bullet underneath for direct, forceful contact.

The bullet vibe, the most critical adult toy for female sexual pleasure, can cause an orgasm in a matter of seconds. This is THE sex toy tutorial to get acquainted with if you’re here to learn how to use sex toys. Watch the video demos as well.

Reduce the intensity and warm up your body with your partner by tucking the egg vibrator between your labia majora and allowing the buzz to travel through your pubis. The methods are all the same, even though some bullets are small while others are large and wide. Additionally, try it on your nipples!

Expert advice: Make sure the bullet sex toy is dry. You will lose the toy’s direct and consistent pinpoint accuracy if you lubricate it or get it wet because it will slide off the rounded profile of the clitoris.

Bullet Vibrator Instructions

Position the bullet vibrator’s tip squarely over the clitoris.
Turn on the motor to the lowest speed setting.
Move the bullet over the clit in a circular motion.
To get the bullet to “scoop” inside the hood, spread it out with your fingers and poke it at an angle.
As arousal increases, select a more intense speed or thumping mode.
Tickle the perianal area, tease the vaginal entrance, and place the bullet between the labia.

How to Use a Clit Sucker

How Can a Clit Sucker Be Used? During foreplay, clit pumps and suckers are used to help increase blood flow to the clitoris, which heightens sensation and relaxes the vagina, thereby preparing the body for sex.

The trick is to keep the clit sucker motionless. Intense and direct stimulation can be obtained by lifting the clitoral hood and exposing the clit to direct hypersonic pulses or vacuum suction. It is a standard method used by women to boost libido in people with low sex drive and promote natural vaginal lubrication.

Clit pump sex toys have incredible air pressure or vacuum suction technology, and they are mighty. One of the most exotic personal pleasure toys a woman can own are vibrating clit sucking toys, which are also an excellent way to combat vaginal dryness and increase intimate arousal.

Similar to the rabbit sex toy demonstration, clit sucking vibrators are used for solo masturbation and generate blended orgasms through simultaneous internal and external stimulation. The rabbit (see the earlier guide above) will be the same as this tutorial.

Expert advice: To improve the air seal and boost the feel and force of vacuum suction, dab a little lube around the edge of the drum opening. The pulses in air pulse sex toys won’t spread out past the edge, allowing you to feel the full effect of the tingling stimulation.

Clit Sucker Instructions

Apply a few lubricant droplets to the sucker’s opening.
Place the opening of the clitoral hood directly on your erogenous zone after raising it.
Squeeze the hand bulb, turn on the vibrating motor, or turn on the air pressure motor.
Don’t move the clit sucker; hold it in place. It will feel more intense the harder you press.

How to Use Finger Sex Toys

How Can a Finger Vibrator Be Used? An exciting method to increase sexual arousal and enhance the pleasure of penetrative sex is finger play. These are among the most widely used sex toy categories for couples because they promote erotic experimentation and interactive play.

Tiny personal massagers called finger sex toys are helpful for adding a playful element to the bedroom. I walk through several options in the sex toy tutorial guide that involves massaging the clitoris, vagina, perineum, anus, and nipples with both fingers and the thumb.

It’s a fun way to explore each other’s bodies and is a wholesome sexual experience. Make your erotic night unforgettable by adding a blindfold to your purchase. Couples also use the finger sex toy tutorial for nipple play! Try something new and think beyond the box.

The thumb should be inserted into the vagina. The clitoris will be naturally massaged by the vibrator strapped to the index finger. Your partner will experience an orgasm from your amazing handiwork as you rock your hand back and forth!

Finger Sex Toy Instructions

Rub your partner’s clitoris while holding the vibrator on your index finger.
Circle the vaginal entrance and rub between the labia.
Hold your finger in place for a few seconds while moving downward and applying pressure to the perineum.
Don’t put your finger inside the anus; just lightly touch it.
While playing with sex toys, touch the nipples as well as other erogenous areas.

How to Use Anal Beads

How Are Anal Beads Used? Tips and suggestions for making anal toy play safer, cleaner, and more pleasurable are included in this sex toy manual. Discover how to play with temperature; it’s often used with butt plugs, but my Sexpert tip is that it works just as well with beads!

An insider tip is the “thumping” sensation of anal beads being pulled at the start of an orgasm. That isn’t accurate. Millions of people have experienced the joy of pushing stringed balls in the butt thanks to anal beads, which have been around for centuries.

The beaded shape that emerges from the anus with a startling contrast between bead and string as the climax approaches is a result of the traditional use of anal beads to intensify the pleasure of clenching muscles during orgasm.

Expert advice: Before inserting each anal bead into the anus, make sure to lubricate them individually. Because it is not as runny as regular sex lube and won’t “squeegee” off when stuffed into a tight anal entry, thick water-based anal lube is the best option.

Anal Bead Instructions

Using your index finger, lubricate each bead and insert it into the anus one at a time.
Holding the middle of the strand, give it a few firm pushes to push it in for the single-strand style of anal beads.
Enjoy having sex with a partner, playing with your dildo, or masturbating together while keeping the beads in their current position.
Grab the retrieval ring with your hand as your orgasm is about to happen (or have your partner do it for you).
Pull the beads out in a steady, fluid motion as the orgasm begins.

How to Use a Cock Ring

How is a cock ring used? See the complete penis ring guide, which includes 12 different kinds of cock rings, five ways to use these male sex toys, and fresh concepts and recommendations to enhance masturbation and sex that you may not have thought of otherwise.

One of the most widespread misconceptions is that men’s penis rings are uncomfortable to wear because they fit too tightly. The majority of cock rings are sufficiently flexible to accommodate men of all penis sizes, even though it is true that some constrict tightly to sustain an erection for men with erectile dysfunction. The stretchiness (or lack thereof) of each cock ring is demonstrated in the sex toy video on each product page.

A loop around the testicles is a potent sexual enhancer for him, and the slight squeeze feels fantastic. It also lifts his scrotum, making the package appear larger. It strengthens the sensation of ejaculation. Would you like a secret pleasure tip? During solo masturbation, I advise men to wear penis rings—they’re not just for sex!

Pro tip: When your penis is halfway erect, put on a cock ring. If you are entirely flaccid, it will simply fall off, but if you are fully erect, it might be too uncomfortable. Before sliding the ring on, always make sure to lubricate its inside.

Cock Ring Instructions

Lubricate your dick and the inside of the ring down to the shaft’s base.
If two rings are joined, put on the shaft band first, followed by the scrotum band.
If you have a vibrating cock ring, you can point it down for perianal stimulation or upward for your partner’s clitoris.
If there are several in the pack, put on the widest ring first, then the next size. (The rings can be stacked to achieve the best erection control.)
It is possible to wear the adjustable Lasso cock ring around the penis alone or the dick and balls simultaneously. To get the fit you want, slide the clasp or bead.

How to Use a Penis Sleeve

How Are Penis Sleeves Used? Although cock sleeves can be stretched to fit any size, a small amount of lube inside will make it easier to put on (with assistance, as seen in the video demonstration). However, the sleeve may come off if you use too much lube. It will remain in place during intercourse if you keep it largely dry.

Penis sleeves are a popular kind of adult toy for lovers who want to improve their sexual encounters. They are sex toys for couples that add a unique touch to regular sex. Both partners will benefit from the soft, distinctive padding that cock extenders and sleeves provide during intercourse.

How can I lengthen my dick with a sex toy sleeve? When wearing penis extensions, an uncomfortable air pocket may occasionally form inside. The interior profile of the sleeve can more comfortably follow the curves of your erection if you pinch the area just below the filled tip with your fingers. This will stop the air pocket from forming.

Not all penis sleeves are made to lengthen or enlarge the dick; some are made to add girth alone, while others are used to enhance erotics in the bedroom. Use the menu’s filters to determine the length or width a specific product will add.

Pro tip: Get a cock sleeve with a ball strap so it will stay in place if you’re worried about it coming off during penetrative sex. If your sleeve is strapless, it will “cling” to your skin if you keep the inside dry.

Penis Sleeve Instructions

Put a small amount of lube on your penis head and inside the sleeve.
Slide it over your dick after gently stretching the opening and using your fingers to roll it outward.
Using both hands, move the sleeve closer to the base of your erection.
Put the ball strap around your testicles right away if one is available.
Before having sex, thoroughly lubricate the outside of the sleeve with a water-based lube.

More Ways to Use Adult Toys

Check out my other adult toy guides and sex toy demonstrations below if you’re a beginner. These key pointers and strategies are based on decades of coaching men, women, and couples on how to use sex toys of all kinds to enhance their sex life and add sex toys to their relationships for greater pleasure.

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How Are Strap Ons Operational? This guide covers how to put on a strap, how they function, and how to choose a size that fits your body type. It is also a shopping guide to help you and your partner choose the best dildo that is compatible with straps on harnesses.
How to Use a Strapless Strap On: The strapless dildo, the kinkiest sex toy for women, needed powerful Kegel muscles to stay in place. Discover how to have fun, kinky, playful, intimate and romantic sex with this adult toy.
The P-spot, a potent erogenous zone, is also present in men, so G-spot stimulation is not limited to women. Discover the best ways to make your sex life shine, as well as what a G Spot is and how to spot one. Discover the fundamentals of G-spot foreplay and how to use sex toys to make a girl squirt.
How to Use a G Spot Vibrator: Using a G Spot stimulator is like following a recipe, with 12 steps necessary to achieve an orgasm. The results are explosive! Learn about the top ten G Spot toys for women that I personally think are the best.
How to Use a Hollow Strap-on: Frequently asked questions and guidelines for men with ED on how to use a hollow strap-on dildo. One of the most misinterpreted kinds of sex toys for couples is the strap-on.
How to Operate the Butterfly Vibrator: The more well-known rabbit companion casts a shadow over the lesser-known butterfly. We will investigate the reasons behind the butterfly’s exceptional sexual pleasure design.
How to Use Kegel Balls: For centuries, women have used Kegel weights, trainers, and balls to help with postpartum incontinence. They are also ideal for hands-free sexual arousal when you’re feeling cocky.
How to Use a Vibrating Cock Ring: As a sex educator, I want to raise awareness of these inexpensive, hands-free devices in the hopes that you will eventually try one yourself. Vibrator cock rings are a little-known sex accessory for couples. It’s the ideal toy for couples!
How to Use a Pocket Pussy: Despite being the most widely used sex toy for men, the pocket pussy masturbator is still considered taboo. Men wouldn’t feel so embarrassed to purchase one of their own if they only knew how many pocket pussies we sell. In this tutorial, I show you how to make a simple pocket pussy.

What Type of Lube Should I Use with Sex Toys?

When it comes to sex toys, I always advise using water-based lube. Why? With silicone sex toys, silicone lube will mix and melt. Though this gradual process takes days, your toy’s surface will eventually deteriorate from repeated exposure. Regardless of the material, this is never an issue with water-based lubricant.

Water-based lubricants are also easier to remove from your toy and don’t require a shower to remove from your body, which is another reason I suggest them. Water-based lube will eventually evaporate, but silicone must be cleaned with soap. Here, you can find your preferred lube!

Go ahead and use silicone-based lube if you’re a sucker for it, but make sure your sex toy is silicone-free. When it comes time to clean your sex toy, water-based lube comes off easily, but silicone has strong bonds that require a lot of soapy suds to break to clean it completely.

How to Clean Sex Toys

Any antibacterial hand soap or sex toy cleaner spray is ideal for cleaning sex toys. After each use, toys need to be cleaned and kept apart from one another. Sex toys should be kept in the original packaging that they came in. Storage is free!

Rinse under running water, apply soap or sex toy spray to the entire surface, wipe the soap off with your hands, and then rinse thoroughly. Before storing, make sure the toy is completely dry and remove the batteries.

Where to Buy Sex Toys

You’re prepared to choose your new favorite intimate bedroom accessory now that you understand how to use sex toys and how we measure each one! The question now becomes, where can I purchase sex toys? You can see my ranking of the “10 best sex toys” in each article, and you can feel secure in the knowledge that you’ve made the right choice.

Why purchase sex toys from us? As the informative content makes clear, we have more experience and expertise than anyone else and know what works and what doesn’t. In addition to having all the accessories you need to properly clean and store your new purchase to keep it in top condition for future kinky encounters whenever you’re feeling frisky, we also offer a warranty to support every purchase.