Keyholder

The phrase "keyholder" refers to the person who is in possession of the chastity device's key. In a BDSM relationship, a dominating person frequently assumes the position of enormous authority held by the keyholder.

Most of the time, the person who locks up the chastity cage may have a sexual relationship with the keyholder. Close kinky friends might, however, also consent to a platonic connection with a cage wearer, mainly if the cage wearer uses the cage as a reward for reaching personal development objectives.

Heterosexual women typically hold the keys to a chastity device worn on a penis, though keyholders can be of any gender or sexual orientation. This is due to the fact that only those who possess a penis are able to use chastity devices for an extended period. For convenience and hygiene reasons, vulva-owner chastity devices must be unlocked often.

The acronym KH is frequently used to abbreviate the term "keyholder."

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A keyholder has power over their partner's genitalia since they also manage access to a chastity device. The keyholder regulates the wearer's ability to experience sexual fulfillment and may even influence when and how they take a shower or urinate.

Many keyholders like to wear the chastity device's keys on a necklace. The submissive is reminded of the keyholder's power by the keys' visibility while worn around the neck, which strengthens the bond between the wearer and the keyholder.

Keyholders should never misuse their position of authority and instead treat it with respect. Keyholders must behave within the parameters set prior to the implementation of the chastity device. These restrictions could include clauses dictating how long the keyholder will retain the keys, enforcing chastity, and if the keyholder will use the submissive to gain their release. During their tenure, keyholders usually "train" their subordinate to be a better, less self-centered lover.

If agreed upon in advance, keyholders may also be held accountable for disciplining their locking submissives in the event that they misbehave or violate the rules while wearing chastity devices, even if their authority should not be misused. Taking away privileges, spanking, or other forms of punishment for misbehavior are examples of discipline.

The month of October is known in kink circles as "Locktober," when those who like chastity play may set a goal for themselves to orgasm denial for the entire month, with or without the aid of a gadget.