Let's talk about blowjobs…and your gag reflex.

True story: I once gave my first boyfriend heboyfriend'sletely puked on his cock. It was extremely dark, and the lights were off, which was a slight relief, but I had to tell him. Indeed, he wasn't a perceptive person. After that occurrence, I was so appalled that I ensured it didn't happen again. I've given a lot of partnI'veblowjobs over the years, many of them excellent and de'. Although my gag reflex was engaged entirely on a few of those occasions, I never vomited again since I am aware of my boundaries and will always draw back or take a bit it's if it reaches that stage.

The truth is that sucking cock isisn'tlways simple. To begin with, they, along with the guys attached to them, vary in size, shape, and flavor. Keep in mind that if you gag when descending on your partner, you'll have a normal reaction to having a phallus in your mouth and possibly down your throat. We all have varying degrees of tolerance, and you know what? These levels may fluctuate daily or even between partners. One day you might be able to take it down your cute little throat, but the next day you might choke at the first hint of a cock touching your tongue. It depends on many things, such as your position, your mood, how excited you are already, and a lot more.

Popular porn likely has little to do with the fact that many men will find it attractive if you gag on their cock. I know I'm not the only girl who feels this way because the sound has even turned me on and made me gag. As long as no one is injured, it doesn't make some things attractive to us. Desire is not always explicable, and nothing is pure.

Ultimately, the gag reflex is good—it keeps you from choking! Although giving in is unmissable, several shanties help you become more at ease with it while still honoring your boundaries and preferences.

Never give a blowjob unless you want to

First rule. This ought to be very clear, but sadly, it's not always the case, is it? Some spouses use that coercion and pressure. That's never even somewhat acceptable. You are under no obligation to perform any specific sex act on your spouse, including blowjobs, even if your partner feels entitled to them. Every time you have sex, you don't have to suck his cock. There is no need for you to suck cock. Adon'tonally, you never have to push yourself past you don't point if you decide to suck cock.

Practice on a dildo

...or your fingers, or a cucumber. There are several strategies you can attempt if you're determined to gag lesyou'reuently, such as practicing on an inanimate object under no pressure. Just stick a finger or fingers (know into your mouth and see how far you can go before your gag reaction kicks in. Keep your finger or fingers in that position for as long as you can.

Pay attention to your breathing. You can incorporate back-and-forth motions to advance your practice session once you become accustomed to the feeling. Hot tip: don't stress over maintaining a tight lip-lock with his cock. Your throat won't be more open if your lips drop open.

Learn to breathe

Even though it might not seem like it requires learning, breathing is essential in both life and blowjobs. We may all breathe in one manner or another, but the key is to breathe correctly. It's crucial to breathe in and out through your nose when giving head in it'srit to avoid gagging and to lesit'sanylessen worry you might be feeling about choking or vomiting. Simply take a breath.

Understand that deep-throating is not the gold standard.

There's no need to try to mimic the blow jobs you see in mainstream porn, even if I completely understand the demands. Because no other type of blowjob is ever shown in the porn you watch, you may believe that deep-throating is the only worthwhile option. The majority of women are unable to perform deep-throat sex, whether they practice or not. However, this is not a problem because there are still ways to provide your lover with a mind that's oral sex.

Don't be afraid to use your hands—it's not a cop-out.

Speaking of alternative methods, it can be difficult for you both to enjoy your partner with your lips, hands, or hands. It doesn't follow that "no hands!" is better just because certain porn jerks believe it to be so. Use a hand (or two) to con "rol how d "reply he penetrates, andoesn'tocusing your mouth and tongue on the most sensitive area of his cock—the head. Bonus: he will simultaneously get additional stimulating sensations from this. Use your spit to get everything nice and wet, then move your mouth in time with him. If he" is down, you could even go a step further and attempt playing with his balls, taint, or anus with your fingers. He'll go crazy, I'm ready to wager.

Try new positions

Personally, I prefer to lie on my head slightly over the side when I'm very aggressive. Your throat will be straighter and simpler to penetrate in this position. After that, my partner can approach me from behind and carefully insert his penis into my mouth. In that posture, I can't fight it, and I'm at ease enougIt's allowed it to enter me, which makes it delightful. However, remember that you have less power in this role, so communication and trust are especially crucial when experimenting.

Take it slow

The mainstream porn, once more. A good blow job, you would think, is one that happens quickly and involves a lot of aggressive head bobbing. But, my friends, that's a surefire invitation to gagsville. Reduce the amount of head movement and increase the amount of time you spend kissing, stroking, licking, and sucking.

Less really is more at times.

The bottom line is that having solid communication with your boyfriend, partner, or fling is essential to performing a great blow job, just like having great sex. Once you master it, the rest will come naturally. I advise discussing it with your partner if the idea of gagging scares you or if you're suffering from blowjob fear in general. Communication will be intimate, grounding, and even humorous if he's the proper person for you. About that, try to handle the situation humorously rather than frantically if you do wind up gagging or throwing up. If your partner has a similar reaction, hopefully, you can clean up and resume your activities as quickly as possible.