ORGASM, INTERRUPTED: A BEGINNER'S GUIDE TO RUINED ORGASMS
Is the secret to numerous penile orgasms this BDSM practice? We've compiled our best information on this elusive kink in our blog for beginners on failed orgasms. Read on to find out more about what it is.
What is a Ruined Orgasm?
People who have achieved their sexual plateau and are about to have orgasms but are interrupted in the process are said to have ruined orgasms. The most common definition of a ruined orgasm is one that has been diminished by embarrassment, distraction, or disengagement, yet it can be avoided entirely.
This essay will concentrate on the intentional act of spoiling orgasms, even though many people claim having unintentionally damaged orgasms. In BDSM scenes, this uncommon kink has gained popularity as a means of establishing authority and can help prepare the body for more controlled, prolonged climaxes.
People can train their bodies to tolerate higher amounts of stimulation as they gain more experience with botched orgasms. This is particularly noticeable during what is known as the "hang time." The interval of time between ceasing stimulation and experiencing an orgasm is referred to as "hang time." Some of the most intense botched orgasms are reportedly caused by longer hang times.
What do Ruined Orgasms Feel Like?
A wrecked orgasm, like many other types of BDSM, can cause wildly disparate emotional and physical reactions in its victims. The genitalia may remain engorged for a long time after the apparent climax, and they may physically hurt or feel buzzy while the body adapts to abrupt changes in stimulation. It is sometimes described as being suspended in pleasure.
What do Ruined Orgasms Look Like?
The explosive quality that Hollywood has given the male orgasm is not present in ruined orgasms. Although the extent and substance of a botched orgasm might vary, it is typically defined as a watery, leaking fluid that appears to spontaneously pour or ooze out of the penis.
Why Do People Enjoy Ruined Orgasms?
People like wrecked orgasms for a variety of reasons, but many of them can be linked to the teasing, denial, and power imbalance that are the foundations of BDSM. According to one Reddit user, "It's about having no control," meaning that orgasm is unavoidable.
Those who are causing wrecked orgasms might also enjoy using this power. People can deconstruct and demolish their partner's enjoyment during a damaged orgasm, opening up new channels of communication.
Edging, Ruined Orgasms, & Orgasm Denial
There are some intriguing overlaps between BDSM subjects like forced orgasms, orgasm denial, and edging when discussing damaged orgasms. Even though these kinks are very different from one another, you can utilize them interchangeably to improve and polish your BDSM situations.
What is Edging?
A sexual technique known as "edging," "surfing," or "peaking" entails purposefully delaying an orgasm to highlight the moments preceding pleasure. Walk the edge of your sexual response cycle to increase the strength, intensity, and duration of your orgasms.
What is Orgasm Denial?
The practice of not engaging in sexual activities to increase sexual desire and tension is known as orgasm denial. During or just before sexual play, orgasm denial can be practiced.
What are Consensual Forced Orgasms (Orgasm Torture)?
When a person's capacity to resist stimulation is reduced, frequently with the use of a restraining system or compromising sex position, a consensual forced orgasm is induced. It is an orgasm that has been prearranged and approved in an attempt to satiate an emotional or bodily desire.
How to Ruin & Chain Orgasms
1. Look for Pleasure Signals
When your partner approaches their enjoyment plateau, the body gives you several indicators. The leg muscles may stiffen, the penis may start to pulse, and the testicles may retreat closer to the body. Verbal clues such as moans, grunts, and whines are also great ways to tell if your partner is enjoying themselves.
2. Stimulate the Frenulum
To stimulate arousal, lick, suck, or stroke the frenulum—an innervated flap of skin on the underside of the penis, directly below the glans—with a greased hand or finger. Pay close care to this susceptible vaginal area.
3. Let It Go
When your spouse is about to have an orgasm, stop stimulating them and let their body's natural reactions take over. This will cause your "hang time" to begin, which will ultimately result in your ruined orgasm. Using a sex toy, you can replicate this effect by switching between higher and lower power settings, creating the appearance of a failing or deteriorating motor.
4. Tease & Humiliate Them
The best time to tease and teach your partner is during the "hang time." Some common strategies to improve a damaged orgasm include ball bursting, gentle slapping, nasty language, and skimming your fingertips across adjacent erogenous zones.
5. Apply Post-Orgasm Stimulation
To promote a chained orgasm, use mild post-genital stimulation after 1–5 minutes after your partner's damaged orgasm. Because they don't always cause the same refractory reactions that a normal penile orgasm would, chained orgasms work best after a failed orgasm.
