What is Primal BDSM?
When you hear the terms “primal” and “sex,” what comes to mind? Are you hot? Our goal at Adutoys is to help you discover your inner wild side, explain what primal BDSM is, and demonstrate how you and your partner can use BDSM gear and primal play to get kinky when the mood strikes.
Are you prepared to learn how to safely include your animalistic side in your roleplaying in the bedroom? Let’s get straight to our innate nature!
What Does Primal Play Mean?
Primitive play refers to when people act like animals or primitive humans by appealing to their baser instincts. Numerous instances of grunting, nonverbal communication, rougher motions, and more forceful sex are frequently included in the primitive BDSM concept. Remember that rough sex, even if it’s simply simulating, does not equate to sex without consent; a primal play kink is not the same as a rape fantasy.
Why Do People Like Primal BDSM?
Through primal play, people can release their inhibitions and entirely rely on their senses and instincts. Being submissive and occupying subspace can also do this for many people, although primal play isn’t limited to submissives. Although dominators are sometimes perceived as having total control—and they still do—power over a scene is not the same as control over oneself.
Stronger Bonds Through Actions
Primal play allows people to communicate primarily via their actions rather than words, which may make them feel like they may form closer ties. Do you know how they say that deeds speak louder? That is particularly true for those who would instead follow their animal impulses.
The Thrill
Wrestling your spouse to the bed and stealing what you desire is a hedonistic thrill. They may reverse the situation and take what they want as well! Some people participate in primal play, celebrating their wild side rather than adopting the persona of a specific animal. Others decide to act like a particular animal. As discussed in the next part, it all concerns comfort and personal preference.
Primal vs. Non-Primal Partners
Primal play can be performed in many ways, and primal and non-primal partners can be distinguished. Furthermore, it’s unnecessary and okay for both partners in a relationship to be primal players. The ideal situation for partnerships with a single primal partner frequently entails the primal partner adopting the persona of a particular animal with which they have a strong affinity.
Horse (Pony Play)
A partner who impersonates a horse is said to engage in ponyplay. To indicate communication, this could entail a rough version of whinnying or neighing. You can decide how intense or easy you want your ponyplay to be. For a fancy pony, you can purchase a lot of equipment like saddles, bridles, reins, and other similar items, but you can get the same effect for much less money if you use a little BDSM rigger, such as a rope and a gag.
Although the feral partner is frequently the submissive in a relationship, this is not always the case. In pony play, for instance, where the dominating animal is the horse, the submissive will train and care for the horse while maintaining its beauty and attending to its requirements. But if the dominant is the horse, they may act like a tamed wild horse and the submissive as a mare or stallion that must be broken.
Dog (Puppy Play)
Compared to pony play, puppy play typically involves more love and devotion. After all, dogs are incredibly energetic and loving. Puppy players are usually obedient, eager to please, and remain still while being handled and groomed. Leading your spouse about on a leash and rewarding them when they behave well can quickly turn into a sexual situation.
Cat (Kitten Play)
When it comes to primitive play, kittens are the closest thing to a brat BDSM kink. Despite their aloofness, most cats may still be friendly when you give them goodies and cuddles. Before delving deeper into your primitive side, ensure everyone involved is secure and feeling well because pet play can involve a lot of feeling and emotion!
The Ideal Match: Primal Dom and Sub
Scenes from primal play frequently look incredibly different when two like-minded individuals meet, as opposed to when one primal person chooses to go for a walk on the wild side. This part examines the interactions between primal dominants and submissives, whereas the preceding section focuses on settings in which one individual is a primal practitioner.
Depending on your preferences and how harsh you and your partner want to get, a scenario with two primal players could resemble a hunt or an animalistic mating ritual. A mating ritual will be a little kinder than a hunt and won’t mimic the “kill.” Primal gamers prefer to locate their primal prey by using their senses of hearing and smell.
Primal Dominant
Primal dominants are typically referred to as hunters by practitioners. Primal dominants frequently like to subjugate their victim by using their physical prowess or agile movements. To subdue the submissive and have their way with them, sometimes violently, they may participate in mating rituals or hunts. Instead of partnering with a submissive, some dominants would instead partner with other primal doms.
Primal Submissive
Primal submissives are typically referred to as prey on the scene. By indicating to your dom that you wish to play and then taking off, you, as the prey, are the one who finally starts the hunt. Primal players foreplay by running and hiding, and submissives enjoy attempting to deceive their hunter and cause them to lose their “scent.”
The hunter eventually corners their victim and uses fighting or posturing to show their supremacy. When sufficiently impressed, the submissive decides to yield to their hunter.
How to Partake in Primal Play
The exciting part is about to begin! It’s time to play! Feeling a little stupid initially is natural, primarily if you and your partner have never engaged in primal play. We advise starting slowly and adding things in little steps as you grow more easily with your inner animal.
Nothing is worse than assuming a character and witnessing your partner stifle their laughter. It’s more likely that they’re laughing at the circumstance than at you. You are starting to snarl or skulk around your bed on all fours. Be patient even if it doesn’t initially seem like the sexy thing you want.
Introduce primal play gradually rather than rushing into it and purchasing some equipment. To test the waters and determine whether you and your partner want to go it further, start having sex typically and then introduce some rougher elements. Here are a few instances of BDSM primal play:
- Growling
- Scratching
- Biting
- Using physical force on their partner or engaging in wrestling (within reason)
- Orgasming on your partner to mark your territory
- Trying a new position or having sex in a different part of the house
- Standing up or leaning your lover over a counter to have sex
- Licking
If you want to go deeper and adopt an animal character, it might not feel so out of place as you and your partner begin integrating these actions into your sex life. Ensure everyone agrees by checking in with your spouse or partners.
Safe Gesture
In BDSM, people typically use a safe word or phrase to let their partner know that they have gone too far and need to end the relationship. However, in primal play, words aren’t expressed verbally, and some people employ physical gags or get so far into their thoughts that they mute words. As a result, you and your partner may need to devise a gesture indicating STOP. This is essential when engaging in animal play or a primal lifestyle within the BDSM community.
You both need to recognize the gesture, which may be anything you desire, and then pay close attention to the scene. Particularly with primal BDSM, it’s simple to lose oneself in the role, but there’s a lot of trust involved, and that trust needs to be respected at all times. There are no exceptions.
Clear the Area
Clearing the space where your hunt or mating ritual will occur is another crucial step. You should make sure that there are no sharp items or little pieces of furniture that you might trip over in your excitement because primal play frequently doesn’t confine itself to the bed or the bedroom, for that matter.
Stripping your toe on a misplaced Lego or spraining your ankle after tripping over an end table is not sexy, but a little pain may be sexy. Just get out of the way before the kinky, steamy, and heavy fun starts!
Let’s Sum It Up!
Many pieces of specialist gear and equipment can improve the experience, depending on the kind of primal play you enjoy. You may focus on letting your wild side run wild and letting your primal instinct take over with our extensive collection of fetish gear and BDSM kits. You won’t ever have to worry about not having the appropriate gag to muffle any human words again!
