Sexualizing the Soft Penis
"You're pretty tender, my dear. I enjoy giving your nice, silky cock a gentle pat. In my hands, your soft cock's skin feels incredibly smooth and alluring. I adore how your entire tongue can accommodate your succulent, velvety cock.
Do you think you could utter these words? Can you see yourself hearing them? Are soft penises indeed sexy?
There is a misconception that people who possess penises should arrive at sexy events with really strong erections and maintain them for as long as they and their partners desire. Penises need to be alert and prepared to obey orders, much like a line of cadets in the military. They arrive when we want them to and get tricky when we want them to. These irrational expectations frequently ruin what might be an enjoyable, sexy time and make many of us feel like failures.
Not all the time do penises act in the way we would like them to. For penis owners and their lovers, this uncertainty can be upsetting. It is inconceivable for some people to be on a date or with a lover and not be able to get and keep an erection for sex. They don't think the soft penis could be used for sexual purposes and consider it a useless appendage. That isn't the only option!
I propose inviting the soft penis to play instead of dismissing it and saying that sexy time is finished. Like erect penises, soft penises can enjoy being licked, sucked, and caressed. They can even ejaculate. Unfortunately, for some couples, a soft penis turns into an unspoken problem that nobody wants to talk about. The owner of the soft penis feels guilty or embarrassed, and their partner can be feeling unwelcome or self-critical. This vicious circle of unfavorable emotions in the bedroom is a massive turnoff for sex, and before long, nobody is approaching for sex.
In my capacity as a sex educator, I advise penis owners to relax. Enjoy the moment if you get an erection, and if not, enjoy that as well. Don't let your time with a partner be ruined because you can't get an erection. Regardless of whether there is an erection present, think about the ways you can provide and receive pleasure. It is rarely sexy to get sulky and grouchy. It communicates to the partner that playtime is not finished and that soft penises are not something to be embarrassed of if the owner of the penis can be relaxed about it and still display sexual enthusiasm.
The solution is not to worry about an elusive erection. Our nervous system reacts to stress and we may either freeze, fight, or flee. Since having a rock-hard penis won't protect us against predators, it should come as no surprise that gaining an erection is not a part of this protective response. Our attention is diverted elsewhere instead. The likelihood that an erection will occur increases with relaxation. An erection cannot be forced. Letting things happen is the key to getting an erection. Who knows, maybe blood will begin to flow in that way if the pressure is released.
Naturally, a soft penis isn't capable of everything. For instance, it cannot be difficult. Additionally, a spouse may occasionally desire something firm to enter their anus or vagina. If so, this can be accomplished with sex toys, fingers, or even a whole hand (with lots of lubricant, patience, and communication).
Great sex is not something that happens. Well, it does occasionally. Not always, though. It frequently requires ingenuity, adaptability, and the understanding that things don't always go as planned. Therefore, you will receive love back if you give a soft cock some affection.
