SPEAKING IN TONGUES: A BEGINNER'S GUIDE TO CUNNILINGUS

Have you tried these cunnilingus techniques, oral connoisseurs? This has nothing to do with the alphabet buddies. For Lover's comprehensive guide to dining out, keep reading.

The Anatomy of the Vulva

The quality of the oral sex you provide might be affected by your understanding of your partner's anatomy. You can improve your technique the more you know about your partner's body. During the women's rights movement, efforts were made to emphasize female pleasure by teaching people about the crucial role the clitoris plays in female pleasure. While the vagina, labia minora, and Majora all have significant supporting functions, I urge readers to consider the clitoris as the main attraction.

The Clitoris: As a sexual organ composed of erectile tissue, the clitoris can harden and enlarge in response to stimulation. Medical professionals refer to this area of the body as a homologue of the male penis, which indicates that it shares chromosomes with the penis in terms of structure and development. You can stimulate this wishbone-shaped organ, which is mostly located beneath the skin's surface, by stroking the labia majora and minora.

The exposed tissue right above the urethral entrance at the apex of the vulva is known as the glans clitoris. It is interesting to note that the glans have the highest number of nerve endings but the lowest percentage of erectile tissue in the clitoris. The glans clitoris is the most sensitive area of the female anatomy, with over 8,000 nerve endings.

The Clitoral Hood: The cutaneous prepuce that envelops the clitoral glans is known as the clitoral hood. It serves the same purpose of protecting the glans from friction during daily activities and shares structural similarities with the foreskin on an uncircumcised penis. All parts of the vulva, including the clitoral hood, vary in size and shape. The glans clitoris hardens and fills with blood during pleasure, revealing the nerve endings when the clitoral hood peels back over it. It may be possible for some people to better stimulate these nerve endings by holding back the skin of their clitoral hood.

The Labia Majora & Minora: The folds of skin and fat tissue that emanate from the mons pubis (the skin above the pubic bone) are known as the labia majora. The inner layer of skin and erectile tissue that envelops the vaginal entrance is referred to as the minor, whereas the outer layer of skin that produces hair is known as the major. Nerve endings lining the minora aid in detecting touch at the tiniest scale, retaining and eliminating moisture, and preserving a pH equilibrium that guards against bacteria and viruses. The vulva's ideal pH range is 5.3–5.6, which is slightly acidic.

The Urethral Opening: Urine is drained from the bladder through a urethra tube. Observing and triggering this tube's opening from the outside is possible.

The Vagina: The triangular, fibromuscular tube that joins the vulva and cervix is called the vagina. It is the channel that a penis or sex toy uses to activate erogenous areas, such as the G-spot. The pelvic floor muscles that flex during an orgasm support this area.

The Perineum: A thin layer of skin called the perineum divides the anus from the vestibule, which is the base of the vaginal opening. This region is susceptible to touch because of its high innervation.

The Anus: Fecal continence is regulated by the anus, a band of muscular rings. The anus can discriminate between soft and hard stools since it is a critical component of our digestion cycle. To activate these nerve endings, many people like to stimulate the anus.

Oral Etiquette 101

You can do a few things to heighten any oral encounter, even if it's impossible to establish a universal method because various bodies prefer different things.

Clean Your Tool Kit: Although the female anatomy is cleverly built to shield the vagina and vulva from bacteria and viruses, it is not impenetrable to damage. Before engaging in any oral intercourse, it is customary to wash your hands and mouth. This will lessen the likelihood of your partners getting bacterial imbalances, yeast infections, or painful UTIs. The same is true for receivers. Before you have oral sex, remember to wash your bits. You're giving them a meal, not a scenario from Fear Factor.

Finger Bang: One region vulnerable to microdermabrasion and rips is the vulva. In addition to being uncomfortable, these injuries can harbour bacteria and other illnesses. Make sure to cut your nails before putting them in the vagina to protect both you and your spouse. Steer clear of any sharp or jagged edges that could snag or catch your partner's body. To increase feeling and avoid skin cracks, you might place a sleeve or sex toy over the tips of your fingers.

Taste the Rainbow: The vulva has a distinct flavour and taste, much like a penis. Aside from general hygiene, the vulva's ability to exhibit a range of flavours—from sweet and tangy to salty and acidic—is entirely normal. Please keep your thoughts to yourself unless they raise health issues for you. Your partner is not responsible for having a nice-tasting vagina.

Changes in nutrition or hormone production can affect your partner's flavour, which is why some partners experience a change in flavour when they become pregnant. Oral intercourse can also be made sweeter or more exciting with the use of oral glides and supplements.

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Warp Speed Sensation: Follow a slow build-up that lets the body digest sensation at its own time unless your partner has expressed a preference for quick, forceful, or surprising oral sex. Our blog post on the anatomy of an orgasm contains additional information regarding the body's sexual response cycle.

Oral Sex During Menses: This location is known to bleed once a month, so don't freak out. Regardless of your involvement, it would help to never humiliate your partner for this. It is perfectly safe (and tastes like pennies) to have oral sex with your spouse during their menstrual cycle. Your partner can use a tampon, dental dam, or menstrual cup to keep the region clean if you are comfortable having oral sex with them during or after their period. Additionally, you can buy absorbent blankets that will keep your linens fresh all day. During menstruation, are you not interested in oral sex? A key component of having excellent oral sex is getting your consent. Tell your spouse that you would be thrilled to have oral sex as soon as their cycle is over but that you are uncomfortable doing it while they are menstruating.

Tips and Tricks for Mind-Blowing Oral Sex

Everybody reacts to touch uniquely. Years may pass before you and your monogamous Lover have perfected your oral technique. It can be discouraging to find that the strategies and tactics we've learnt don't always work on other bodies when we find new partners. Use these six strategies to better oral sex and communication with your partner by learning to speak their holy language:

Ask Questions: Besides being crucial for improving your technique, asking questions is also very hot. After spreading your partner's legs apart, gently stroke the clitoris up and down. Then, use your finger to make little circles on the glans' surface.

You may quickly determine how your partner prefers to be touched by asking them what they like and providing options. Try this technique to determine whether your partner enjoys sweeping or circular motions, fast or gradual touches, or soft or hard touches. As your partner imagines how they will be stroked next, this or that combination might create a sense of anticipation. You can touch this hot zone in ten different ways by reading our blog post about masturbating the vulva.

Give Them a Leg Massage: The clitoral legs can be considerably more challenging to activate because they reside beneath the skin's surface. To improve sensitivity and blood flow, gently massage the inner and outer labia. Applying light pressure to the labia with both thumbs or rubbing up and down the legs with the index and middle finger (like a peace sign) are two ways to massage this area. This method can be applied with or without tongue stimulation.

Pull Their Hair: Did you know that each nerve ending in our pubic hair has a connection to it? For many people, having public hair is a source of pleasure in addition to its protective role against bacteria and friction. To increase excitement during oral sex, some people like to have these hairs lightly pulled on.

Suck It: This famous cunnilingus method is usually replicated in oral sex-stimulating gadgets. Gently suck on the glans with your lips to form a seal around the clitoris. Some people like drawing air in, which causes a tiny air vortex around the glans. You can enhance this experience by flicking and licking your tongue while sucking. Consider it the tiniest hickey in the universe.

Multitask: Want to improve your oral sex skills? Dispersing stimulation over several erogenous zones is one of the best strategies to enhance oral sex. Here are some methods to confuse feelings and give yourself goosebumps all over.

  • Apply pressure on the G-spot or anus with a finger while licking or sucking the clitoris.
  • Place your thumb right over the vaginal or anal opening and lick or suck on the clitoris.
  • Using your free hand, trace your partner's body, pull on their nipples, or, if they agree, suck on your fingers to activate the clitoris.
  • While your hands rub the clitoris or anus, use your tongue to stimulate the area surrounding the vaginal opening.
  • As you kiss or bite around the inner thighs, use your hands to stimulate the vagina or clitoris.

Make Eye Contact: Eye contact is adored by all. According to Relish's article, "The Power of Eye Contact During Intimate Moments," maintaining eye contact is essential for enhancing sexual chemistry, building trust, and maintaining focus.

Introduce a Sex Toy: It is supposedly nearly impossible to rub your stomach and pat your head. If you have trouble multitasking, consider introducing a sex toy. As many vulva people will tell you, they like to focus on only one area, and there is nothing wrong with it. To achieve this difficult balancing act, however, a sex toy can assist you if you want to increase arousal to the point of combustion. Famous internal stimulators with a single motor that will remain out of the way as you lick, flick, and suck on your partner's parts are the Playboy Pleasure The Seeker and the We-Vibe Rave 2.

The Best Positions for Oral Sex

Classic Missionary: Classic missionary is a popular oral sex stance that is straightforward, allowing the receiver to relax and concentrate on the sensations being experienced thoroughly.

Doggie Style: Have you ever had oral sex with a dog? Because the technique reveals the entire vulva, lets the recipient lean (or push) into pleasure, and is visually appealing for the giver, the *chef's kiss* is a personal favourite. To support this stance, you can buy a positioning wedge.

The Happy Baby: Yogis are likely accustomed to this position. Receivers should bring their thighs near their chest while lying on their back. With your hands supporting your position, align your ankles with your calves. This exposes the vulva to stimulation.

Queening: Straddling your spouse during oral sex is known as queening or face sitting. The receiver can lean into their enjoyment and direct stimulation in this potent stance. Some specialist stores provide queening stools that support the majority of your partner's weight while allowing you to leave the vulva exposed.

The Kivin Method: A position known as the "Kivin Method," which gained popularity on Reddit, is supposed to cause a climax in less than three minutes. As you hone your technique, it's worth looking into, even if we can't guarantee that this method works for everybody. To practice this technique, elevate and stabilize the clitoris with your thumb and index finger. Givers should tilt themselves to lick from side to side, sweeping directly over the clitoral hood, as opposed to up and down. Read Cosmopolitans' Guide to the Kivin Method to learn more about this popular method.

The Best Stimulating Sex Toys

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The LELO Sona 2: With the LELO Sona 2, a sonic air vibrator that reveals 75% of the clitoral nerve endings, experience new sensations! To ensure that you don't miss a beat, the Sona 2 envelops and embraces your clitoris. Determine which of the 12 settings provides you with a back-arching release by cycling through them.

Her Ultimate Pleasure: Her Ultimate Pleasure simultaneously vibrates, licks, and sucks to give you an orgasm that makes you want to scream. There are numerous alternatives for your release with this multipurpose pleasure wand's four stimulating motors.

The Lickity Slit: This realistic mouth stimulator allows you to cycle through seven intense, flashing speeds and functions. To position the silicone tongue over your most sensitive areas, place the oval-shaped cup over your vulva.