The Ultimate Guide to Sex Positions: Lotus

Now, let's discuss sex positions.

This set of guidelines is for you whether you're dating someone you've been seeing for a while or are trying to get back together with a former romantic interest.

The highly private Lotus posture comes next.

Lotus:

The lotus position, also known as the "yab-yum" position, is a tantric sex position in which one person sits face-to-face in the other's lap for either external stimulation or intimate penetration, depending on the mood.

Lotus symbolizes the merging of feminine, receptive energies (Shakti) and male, penetrating energies (Shiva) in tantra. This ancient Indian spiritual belief system focuses on transferring energy, including sexual energy, between couples to promote healing, spiritual development, and greater love. Regardless of gender identity, partners are free to play either role or even alternate between them.

The lotus pose, which involves sitting cross-legged with your feet propped on top of your thighs, is actually the inspiration for the lotus pose. Similar to this, the lotus sex position has one partner sitting cross-legged while the other is straddling them with their back to them. Imagine a cowgirl who sits up straight. Two face-to-face bodies are pressed closely together in this arrangement, which allows for all types of romance.

Lotus might be for you if you want a very intimate position where you can sit wrapped around your lover and kiss, converse, or whisper, make eye contact, and change positions as necessary.

A note on terms:

We refer to the person with the penis (biological or synthetic) as the "thrusting partner" when we talk about penetration and the person who accepts the act of penetration (vaginal or anal) as the "receiving partner."

It is crucial to remember that receiving is not a submissive, passive role. It's a passionate, engaged role. The receiver is expressing their power of choice by deciding to invite their lover inside of them.

The thrusting partner is also more than just a giver. Naturally, they enjoy themselves while performing the deed as well. However, we have chosen these labels for the two sides of the dynamic for the sake of uniformity and clarity.

How to do it:

The thrusting partner sits cross-legged on the bed, or anywhere else you want to be intimate in order to enter this posture. After that, the receiving partner lowers themselves until they are practically eye-to-eye and chest-to-chest. The legs of the receiving partner encircle the thrusting partner's waist or torso. The thrusting partner may also use their arms to draw the receiver in closer if this seems comfortable. You may melt into this posture by putting your arms around each other.

Your genital combination and sexual tastes will determine precisely what you do once you're in the position.

Usually, either anally or vaginally, the thrusting partner penetrates the receiving partner. You may try gentle rocking, as the position is meant to promote deep, spiritual merging rather than quick, climax-oriented movement.

Consider oral-to-nipple stimulation, manual stimulation (all hands!), making out, necking, external vibrators, and grinding if penetration is not a possibility.

Reasons we love it:

-Promotes intimacy and closeness through heart-to-heart communication and extended eye contact.

-Encourages communication (since your faces are so near, conversing comes more easily)

Allows the hands to be accessible to stimulate oneself or one's partner.

-Having free hands also means having more time to use sex toys and explore erogenous zones.

- Versatility: the position and angle can be readily changed, and exploration can be conducted with or without penetration.

Variations to try out:

Draped Lotus

The receiving partner lets their feet fall down their back while draping their knees on the thrusting partner's shoulders instead of around their waist.

This version might be fantastic for anal sex enthusiasts because it makes it easier to access the receiving partner's anus.

Chair Lotus

The receiver sits on their partner's lap, facing them, but with their legs dangling toward the floor, while the thrusting partner sits in a chair, either cross-legged or with their feet on the floor.

Because both partners may push off from the floor and grip the back of the chair, this version allows for greater mobility. Additionally, the chair provides improved back support.

Reverse Lotus

The receiving partner faces away from their partner while sitting on their lap with their legs crossed or crouching.

Because your partner can hold onto your breasts while thrusting, this variation might be a nice change of pace, especially if you have them. For individuals who are interested in anal, this can also be an excellent, accessible choice.

Straight-legged

One or both couples may choose to maintain their legs straight or slightly bent instead of fully encircling one another. Additionally, the thrusting partner should be at ease leaning against a wall.

This is for people who are concerned that in order to perform the lotus position, they must be highly flexible or practice yoga. Not true.

Kneeling

While keeping full-body contact, the receiving partner can kneel and straddle the bottom partner, supporting some of their weight.

The thrusting partner, who bears the majority of the weight in this posture, may experience some strain, but this variant lessens that pressure.

Leaning back

Both parties lean (or stretch) back somewhat in the typical posture, which alters the hip angle and provides deeper penetration and g-spot stimulation than the standard Lotus.

This variant might be effective if you or your spouse are more adaptable or like to experience a slightly different penetrating sensation.

Other tips and tricks:

-Work in some shady conversations. Experimenting with erotic discourse or simple expressions of affection is greatly facilitated by face-to-face postures. Avoid overanalyzing it. "You feel so good" or "I love feeling close to you" are simple statements that could transform your (sex) life.

-Incorporate lube into the mixture. Lube facilitates variations in pace and tempo, improves glide between bodies (or between fingers and nipples), lowers friction, and is a must for anal contact. Suppose you want to use silicone-based toys or latex barriers like condoms or dental dams. In that case, Bellesa's Water-Based Lubricant is a beautiful choice because other lubricants can degrade them and reduce their effectiveness.

-Include sex toys. In every position, vibrators tend to elevate things. For penetrative sex, a wearable couple's toy like the Luvli Ditto 2 or a vibrating cock ring like Halo is ideal. Meanwhile, the rechargeable Bodywand and the traditional Nirvana magic wand are excellent for nonpenetrative play and may be applied to any body part.

-Try making eye contact. You and your partner could try tantric eye gazing if the mood is right. First, lock the left eye to the left eye and the right eye to the right eye. Next, take a collective breath. We reach entirely new levels of closeness when we gaze into someone's eyes. It's normal to have the temptation to turn away. Have faith in the process.