Ultimate guide to sex positions: Butterfly

Let's discuss sex positions.

This book is for you whether you're just getting started with a new partner or want to intensify your long-term committed relationship.

The ever-adaptable Butterfly position comes next.

Butterfly:

The Butterfly position, also known as "The Blossoming Position" in the Kama Sutra, is ideal for anyone who has experienced the missionary position and is searching for something similar but more seductive. To put it briefly, the Butterfly position is similar to missionary, with one partner standing at the edge of the bed, couch, or table. There are also lots of sensual alternatives to try.

If you want to give your sex some life or are just searching for a position that will allow you to have sex in a separate room, the Butterfly is a great one to try.

Many people can perform the Butterfly because it doesn't require extreme flexibility or stamina. Additionally, it may be easily adapted to accommodate all genders with a bit of ingenuity (i.e., toys).

A note on terms:

We refer to the person with the penis (biological or synthetic) as the "thrusting partner" when we talk about penetration and the person who accepts the act of penetration (vaginal or anal) as the "receiving partner."

It is crucial to remember that receiving is not a submissive, passive role. It's a passionate, engaged role. The receiver is expressing their power of choice by deciding to invite their lover inside of them.

The thrusting partner is also more than just a giver. Naturally, they enjoy themselves while performing the deed as well. However, we have chosen these labels for the two sides of the dynamic for the sake of uniformity and clarity.

How to do it:

With their butt at the very edge, the receiving spouse lies on their back on the bed or other furniture of their choosing. To make it easy for their penis or dildo to enter their partner's vagina or anus, the thrusting partner stands erect at the edge of the bed, between the receiving partner's knees.

After that, the receiving partner positions their legs in a vertical V configuration, resting their ankles or calves—depending on their height—on the shoulders of the thrusting partner. The receiving partner is free to move their hips as they like, but the thrusting partner does most of the work! For comfort and stimulation, they can also move their legs as they want.

Reasons we love it:

If the receiving partner has a vagina, it facilitates cervical or A-Spot orgasms by enabling extra deep penetration, which can feel divine for both lovers.

Couples of the same sex can achieve this position by using strap-ons, dildos, and a readiness to experiment with anal.

Deep penetration is not required just because it is feasible. The thrusting partner can comply with the receiving partner's requests after they have spoken about their needs.

Because neither spouse is bearing the other's burden, it is not taxing on either partner's body.

In this posture, a receiving partner with a clitoris can readily appreciate some extra fingering.

Variations to try out:

Numerous positions that resemble the Butterfly have a variety of imaginative and humorous names. As usual, it's advisable to attempt these small-size adjustments to see which alternative or options suit you and your partner the most. Keep in mind that what feels amazing on Friday might feel less excellent on Monday. Furthermore, even seemingly minor adjustments can have a profound impact. Examine.

Legs on one shoulder

The thrusting partner's shoulder is where the receiving partner rests both legs. In addition to making penetration easier, this can increase the thrusting partner's (and possibly the receiving partner's, depending on their preferences) level of arousal.

Crisscross

In order to place the left ankle on the thrusting partner's left shoulder and the right ankle on the right shoulder, the receiving partner crosses one leg over the other at the shins. The experience is different since this makes the penetration insertion point more petite but not as tight as putting both legs on one shoulder.

Anvil

Pushing the backs of their thighs back toward their head or either side of it, the thrusting partner leans forward into their partner's legs. The receiving partner must have more significant hip movement for this.

Viennese oyster

The receiving partner's legs are pushed straight back toward their head by the thrusting partner, who eventually touches their toes to the surface they are lying on. This role calls for a great deal of flexibility from the receiving spouse and should be carefully considered and tried.

Praying mantis

The receiving partner leans one ankle on their shoulder and puts the other leg out to the side, while the thrusting partner kneels (for example, on the bed) instead of standing. The receiving partner has greater control and can grind their way to climax thanks to this angle, which also facilitates g-spot stimulation.

Launchpad

As if they were going to lift off, the receiving partner puts their heels on their partner's chest, bends their knees up toward their chest, and squeezes their legs together.

Other tips & tricks:

To aid in getting the ideal angle (hello g-spot) or to prevent the needless agony that comes with being in a less-than-ideal position, place prop cushions or a cushion beneath the receiving partner's hips!

Never be afraid to experiment with different penetration angles until you and your lover find one that suits you both. Clear communication is fantastic, and there's no use in doing anything that doesn't function.

Add a vibrator for even more enjoyment. The receiving spouse may use a vibrator on their clit during intercourse if they have a vulva.

It should go without saying, but if you're trying to have sex in a new place, be sure that the furniture you use for your naughty, evil activities is comfy, solid, and strong.