Ultimate guide to sex positions: Queening

Now, let's discuss sex positions.

This set of guidelines is for you whether you're dating someone you've been seeing for a while or are trying to get back together with a former romantic interest.

The position of Queening, which is positively royal, comes next.

Queening:

"If you're on the giving end of the equation, think of your partner as your queen...and your face as her throne," Men's Health so beautifully states.

When one person sits over the other's face to facilitate oral-genital or oral-anal sex, this is known as Queening or facesitting.

Queening is the "ancient art in which a woman presses and rubs her genitalia and anus against the tongue, lips, and nose of her subordinate," according to the Urban Dictionary. It was first used by wealthy women (including queens) who wanted to have sex without getting pregnant, whether they were virgins or wives whose husbands couldn't be reached. Male slaves and servants were typically responsible for caving into their mistresses' wishes. In addition to being a historical aspect of ancient Japanese, Chinese, Indian, Medieval European, Victorian, and other cultures, the practice appears to have been present in ancient Egyptian artwork. Figure it out.

In today's kink and BDSM circles, Queening is a typical approach to explore erotic asphyxiation and exercise sexual authority. A queening chair, which is a low seat that covers the submissive's face and has an opening to enable oral stimulation of the receiving partner while they are seated, is what some people choose to employ. Queening is frequently carried out by the dominant partner who identifies as feminine, while the facesitting recipient can be of any gender.

Queening is frequently viewed as an empowering method for women to achieve sexual fulfillment, even by those who are not attracted to dominance, submission, or any specific kink. Additionally, many who agree to be sat on do so because they also find it to be highly stimulating.

As a method to draw attention to sexist legal changes that seem to target women's sexual gratification, protesters sat on one other's faces in public (while fully clothed) in 2014 after facesitting was outlawed in UK-made porn. That is, Queening is a subversive act as well!

A note on terms:

We refer to the person with the penis (biological or synthetic) as the "thrusting partner" when we talk about penetration and the person who accepts the act of penetration (vaginal or anal) as the "receiving partner."

It is crucial to remember that receiving is not a submissive, passive role. It's a passionate, engaged role. The receiver is expressing their power of choice by deciding to invite their lover inside of them.

The thrusting partner is also more than just a giver. Naturally, they enjoy themselves while performing the deed as well. However, we have chosen these labels for the two sides of the dynamic for the sake of uniformity and clarity.

How to do it:

The "subject," also known as the giving or thrusting partner, will be lying on their back while the Queen in question kneels over them. The Queen then uses the muscles in their thighs to hover directly over their mouth while straddling their face with a leg on each side.

Queening can be both a sex act and a thigh workout because, unless otherwise agreed, the receiving partner (the Queen) typically does not seat their complete body weight down.

For maximum clitoral enjoyment, the Queen's companion should execute the same actions they often do during cunnilingus: suck, kiss, flick with their tongue, and nudge with their nose.

Reasons we love it:

Because it allows for complete control for the receiving partner and unhindered clitoral stimulation, which can be challenging to achieve in other positions, it's an excellent position for achieving orgasm.

-It is ideal for receiving partners who like to feel worshipped by their spouse or who are interested in experimenting with a sense of domination.

Because the receiving partner can get as involved in riding their face as they want, it's perfect for givers who enjoy feeling subservient.

-A face full of booty, baby, awaits the providing partner if he is an "ass man."

It's a stance that promotes ongoing dialogue and agreement.

The thrusting partner must be able to express (maybe with a gesture or safe phrase) when things aren't working or when they need a break while the receiving partner expresses their preferences.

Variations to try out:

In addition to deciding whether to sit directly on top of their lover's face or rest their knees on either side of it (as was previously mentioned), there is another significant variation to consider during Queening:

Reverse Queen

The receiving partner positions themselves over their partner's face, but they pivot to face their partner's feet in the opposite direction.

This variety works exceptionally well for investigating the wild ride known as rimming, also known as oral-anal pleasure or analingus—deliciousness among adults who give their consent.

Other tips and tricks:

The receiving partner may attempt "smothering" the thrusting partner if both lovers are fully engaged in exploring erotic asphyxiation, also known as breath play. However, always take extra safety precautions.

The Queen may cling to the bed frame for support if it gets challenging to hover over their spouse.

The Queen should feel free to use this empowering position as the receiving partner to tell their partner what feels fantastic, what feels strange, and what feels nice. A queen is a queen is a queen, after all.