Ultimate guide to sex positions: Speed bump

Now, let's discuss sex positions.

This set of guidelines is for you whether you're dating someone you've been seeing for a while or are trying to get back together with a former romantic interest.

Next up is Speed Bump, which is among the most excellent humping postures available.

Speed Bump:

The Speed Bump is simple to learn and offers excellent enjoyment without the chance of an injured muscle or the need for a rigorous workout.

To put it briefly, it's a more straightforward variation of doggie style in which one person lies on their stomach with a pillow beneath their hips while the other kneels behind them, ready to penetrate.

The rise produced by the pillow inserted under the receiving partner's pelvis is what gives the "Speed Bump" its name. This position is intended to slow things down, much like a natural speed bump.

Since it's similar to doggie style without requiring you to stay on your knees, the Speed Bump is a pillow princess's dream. The thrusting partner does all the work, while the receiving partner gets to lie there.

Bonus: The Speed Bump puts the thrusting partner in control, which is ideal if you're searching for a sex position that allows you to experiment with power dynamics (but always with constant communication and consent!).

A note on terms:

We refer to the person with the penis (biological or synthetic) as the "thrusting partner" when we talk about penetration and the person who accepts the act of penetration (vaginal or anal) as the "receiving partner." For reasons that should be clear, the recipient is also referred to in this text as "the rider."

It is crucial to remember that receiving is not a submissive, passive role. It's a passionate, engaged role. The receiver is expressing their power of choice by deciding to invite their lover inside of them.

The thrusting partner is also more than just a giver. Naturally, they enjoy themselves while performing the deed as well. However, we have chosen these labels for the two sides of the dynamic for the sake of uniformity and clarity.

How to do it:

The thrusting partner kneels and enters them from behind, while the receiving partner lies face down on their front with a pillow or bolster beneath their hips.

Depending on personal preference, the receiving partner may decide to keep their legs apart or closer together. Deeper penetration is made possible by spreading the legs apart, which some people find enjoyable yet uncomfortable. Conversely, maintaining the legs closer together allows for less depth but produces a tighter feeling.

After the receiving partner is positioned, the thrusting partner either bends over to a tabletop posture with their hands on either side of their partner's chest or kneels up behind them. In any case, they are now in a position to investigate penetration. While their lover enters from behind and supports them with their hips, the receiving partner can unwind.

In order to make both lovers enjoy the bumpy ride, the thrusting partner behind can, of course, also reach around to offer some manual clitoral stimulation, kiss their partner's neck and back, or even lay their head on their partner to build slow, intimate tension.

A more accessible angle for the thrusting partner to penetrate is created by the pillow holding the receiving partner's booty up in the air; keep in mind that this position is excellent for both vaginal and anal sex. If the one thrusting needs a break from, well, thrusting, it also makes for a tasty oral sex position.

Reasons we love it:

Nearly effortless—the receiving partner can unwind while yet experiencing intense.

It is frequently compared to spooning, a snuggling position that is believed to foster intimacy and is far more personal than the typical dog style.

The pillow's placement makes it easier to stimulate the G-spot on the vagina's front wall.

Deeper penetration is possible, which makes it ideal for people who enjoy depth. It also works well for penetration with a smaller penis.

The receiving partner's gorgeous ass is clearly visible to the thrusting partner.

Ideal for partners who enjoy the sensation of "pounding" sex because the pillow lessens the impact.

Variations to try out

Speed bump with the thrusting partner lying flat

To enable a different angle of penetration and maximum skin-to-skin contact, the thrusting partner can lie flat on top of their partner instead of kneeling upright or in a tabletop position. This one is quite hot and steamy all over when done correctly.

Some people may find this variety more stimulating, but it's perfect for greater intimacy. However, it might not be effective for those who feel their partner's burden could be better.

Spooning sex 

When attempting spooning sex, the front partner bends their knees and pulls them up toward their hips while the other partner lies on their sides, facing the same direction, in a spooning snuggling posture. The thrusting partner then comes in from behind, gripping onto the receiving partner's hips or putting their arms around them in a cozy hug.

For individuals who want extreme intimacy and closeness without compromising deep stimulation, this low-effort version of the Speed Bump is ideal.

Superwoman

In this variation, the thrusting partner enters from behind, holding the receiving partner's knees while the receiving partner's upper body rests on the bed's edge.

Your bed may be too high or too low for this one, depending on your height, but it can be ideal with the correct cushion arrangement. There's a little oddball kink to this variation: the receiving partner can act like they're flying if that's their thing, and the thrusting partner gets a great view of their partner's back body.

Other tips and tricks: 

The thrusting partner can deliberately position their legs outside their partner's legs for a more sturdy straddle.

By positioning devices like the Bullet Soft Touch between the cushion and the receiving partner, you can incorporate clit vibes to improve clitoral stimulation.

The receiving spouse can move their hips around and rub their clit on the pillow to increase clitoral stimulation without the use of a toy or reach-around.

To make the receiving partner as comfortable as possible, you should stack many cushions, especially if there are height differences.

The receiving partner may hold their butt cheeks apart for more depth and stimulation, which would provide more access and, of course, a better view.