What is Queer Sex?
There is no better time than Pride month to have the conversation—the Queer Sex talk—about sex, which is frequently wholly ignored.
When many people think of the term "sex," they typically think of penis-in-vagina, heterosexual and cis-gendered sex. Even while it appears to be a prevalent approach for many people to get down, it's clear that there are other options, particularly amongst LGBT people!
What is Queer Sex Anyway?
Any sexual activity involving two or more individuals who identify as members of the 2SLGBTQIA+ community is referred to as "queer" sex. Although it is occasionally explicitly referred to as "gay" or "lesbian" intercourse, this totally eradicates any other kind of identification inside the society!
Having Queer Sex
There are several reasons why sex between queer individuals differs from sex between cisgender and straight people, and recognizing this, first and foremost, can always result in the most enjoyable sexual encounters!
1. Naming body parts and discussing them beforehand
Whether it's for general reference or dirty conversation, not everyone prefers the same nomenclature for their parts. For instance, while one individual may find the word "pussy" endearing, another may find it offensive. Avoiding any potential ICKs can be achieved by reviewing your preferred words and what turns you on or off in advance.
2. Discussing consent and boundaries
There are some boundaries or "off-limits" things (such as specific body parts or activities) that are more likely to come up during sex between gay individuals. However, they are obviously not exclusive to queer sex. Everyone is on the same happy page and things remain agreeable when these things are discussed beforehand!
3. Self-define what "sex" means to you and your body personally
It's crucial to define what "sex" actually means to you and your body because there are many different ways to have sex, particularly queer sex. For instance, a blowjob may be considered part of sex for one person with a penis but not for another. We absolutely believe mutual masturbation to be sex, even though other people may not!
You can create your own sexual experience together, akin to a "Build-Your-Own" sex kit after you have a clear understanding of what sex means and/or looks like to you. It is also much easier to communicate this knowledge to possible sexual partners.
4. Remember that your gender expression doesn't define your sexual role
For some reason, there are a lot of labels or "roles" that may be specified for how we have sex, especially when it comes to gay sex. As is well known, labels play a significant role in the identities of many people, yet they may also be highly restrictive.
Not all women are bottoms; "tops" don't look like that, and whatever other stereotype has to be broken, do it! It is up to you to determine your function in the bedroom, not how you appear, what you dress, or how you identify or represent your gender!
