Women and Anal: Things to know about "back door" play

Over the past few years, there has been a significant change in the way that booty is perceived around the world. We have twerking, Kim Kardashian's posterior on magazine covers, and makeup designed specifically for your behind. For heterosexual couples, anal play and sex are growing in popularity. A 2011 National Health Statistics report states that 36% of women and 44% of men in the US have engaged in heterosexual anal intercourse.

There is proof that ancient cultures were interested in heteroaryl play; thus, it is by no means a novel concept.

Let's go over some fundamental definitions to make sure we are all on the same page. Inserting the male partner's penis into the female partner's anus is known as hetero-anal intercourse. The act of a female partner wearing or holding a dildo and inserting it into the male partner's anus is known as pegging. Anything involving the butt, whether it is oral, vibrator, or finger, is considered anal play.

Women and Anal Sex

The research on women and heterosexual anal sex is, to put it simply, terrible—the majority of studies on the subject focus on gay males. The first noteworthy study was published in Sexual Medicine in 2019. According to the survey, the majority of women who tried anal found it unpleasant either they were in bodily pain or felt pressured by their spouse to do so. According to the survey, avoiding vaginal sex during menstruation, preserving virginity, and avoiding pregnancy were the leading causes of anal sex among women.

You might be wondering if anal sex or anal play can make you feel good because so many women engage in it for "practical" reasons and don't love it.

Yes, that is the response. If done correctly, all the butt stuff can feel great.

A Women's Guide to Anal Sex

The clitoris resembles an iceberg in specific ways. It reaches all the way down to the anus, but you only see the tip of it. This implies that you can activate the clitoris, which has more than 9000 nerve endings, by anal penetration! At the opening of our anus, we also feel a lot of feeling. The erogenous zone is heated. Because anal sex is so close to the pelvic floor and vaginal wall, some women may also experience orgasms from it.

It will hurt, much like vaginal intercourse, if you are not prepared. Therefore, you must prepare for this significant occasion if you wish to engage in anal intercourse. Pleasurable anal sex requires 90% preparation, which includes preparing oneself mentally, according to Alicia Sinclair, host of Anal Sex 101 at the Museum of Sex in New York City. This is especially true if you have previously experienced discomfort or suffering since your body will anticipate the same thing, which causes your anus to stiffen.

Mental prep

It hurts worse as your anus gets tighter. The problem is that your anus gets tighter while you're in agony. Really, it's a terrible spiral. You can avoid this, and the first step is to prepare your mind. Your companion must make you feel very at ease. You must have faith that they will pay attention to you, take your time, and refrain from pressuring you to achieve more than you are capable of. Before you leave through the back door, have this conversation with them.

You should do some individual research as part of your mental preparation. Learn about your anus and how penetration feels using a toy like a vibrator or anal plug and lots of lubricant. It's much less stressful to do it alone, and you may stop whenever you'd like. When you start anal play with a partner, this type of anal masturbation will make you feel more at ease mentally.

Physical prep

You can proceed to the physical preparation after you and your spouse have established a strong communication line, and you both feel at ease. Before you come in hot with a penis, you must prepare your anus. Avoid going from 0 to 100. Instead, begin by rubbing the outside of the anus with a vibrator or a finger (preferably clip your nails!) and gobs of lubrication. Keep the lubricant close at hand because your bottom doesn't lubricate itself. You must ensure that you are always lubricating yourself.

Before working your way up to a penis or dildo, start with something tiny. For this, anal plugs are ideal! The vibration feeling of this vibrator anal plug will assist in relaxing muscles and maintaining your erection while also "training" your anus for something more significant, such as your man's package. This also works if you want to attempt pegging with your partner!

Before engaging in anal sex, you should become quite comfortable with both anal play and your anal plug. Ignoring it could result in severe pain and injuries like bleeding or tearing.

Keeping it clean

Anal sex involves an entirely different set of sanitary precautions. You should take a shower and tidy up the area before having intercourse, anal play, or masturbation. The following should always be kept in mind: never double dip. This implies that you cannot move from the anus to the vagina.

I'm prepared to wager that you may have heard about anal intercourse involving a lot of *ahem* excrement in high school or college. We've all heard them, and to be honest, these tales are probably overblown. However, you can try a warm water enema a few hours prior to the big event if this fear stresses you out. Remember that water may seep out for a time, so if you like, do this two or three hours beforehand.

Heterosexual anal intercourse was best explained, in my opinion, by drawing a comparison to cilantro. In moderation, some individuals adore it, while others hate it. Back-door hijinks can provide women with a sense of pleasure and intimacy. More women will learn how to have anal sex so that it is enjoyable for them as a result of research, education, and the act becoming less taboo. Wanting to explore new sexual avenues and experience different kinds of pleasure is not a sign of weakness! If you've been considering it, start with an anal plug and some lubrication, then take some well-earned "me time" to experiment with your body.